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Overly religious mom
12 year old female.
So my mom is waay to catholic. Basically I dress in black or band t shirts, skinny jeans, converse. My hair is layered on the top and thin on the bottom, side bangs. I listen to emo, screamo, alternative rock, rock, punk, hard rock...she thinks because of this I'm satanic. She's constantly supervising my behavior and asks waay to many questions. Her new thing is she doesn't want me reading creepypastas because of a couple of nutjobs stabbing a girl in the woods. Literally everyone in my school likes creepypasta so far no one's killed anybody. And I told her that people have killed people in the name of religion, but she didn't want to hear it. I'm still reading creepypasta though, and now I'm just more attracted to it. She's been restraining me my whole life and idk I don't know why but every time she preaches on why I shouldn't do things I feel like doing them 10× more than ever, ESPECIALLY when she says I shouldn't do it. She is paranoid about me doing the "emo" thing because she read something crazy on a catholic website about some girl who commited suicide. I'm agnostic and I just hate it when she believes this crap. How do I deal with a catholic extremist?
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For one thing it sounds like you are a typical today's teenager. I will assume since it is left unsaid that your school grades are good or mom would be harping on those as well, Just based on your side of the story mom should be very proud of you. This Emo thing is for the most part a fad you will grow out of, until you do she can and could put up with it.
As for mom being a religious zealot, my word, there really is not much you can do about this as long as you live at home which until your 18 you must do. What you can do is turn down the confrontation exposure.
Parents and teenagers have been fighting over what teenagers listen to or call music since, well since recording began. If you have read the required literature for school then what you read for pleasure should be pleasurable to you.
To turn down the friction when listening to music do so with headphones. Try covering you creepypasta books with dust covers making them look like school books. I normally do not recommend hiding things from or lying to parents though your problem calls for an exception. what mom does not see or hear should not bother here and not cause her to bother you.
As for why when mom says no or you can't have or do something it is ten times more wanted. That's normal for anyone. It is a desire we all have for the forbidden. It is also what causes some of the greatest discoveries and inventions. Tell someone that can't be fixed or there is no cure for something and they will work to fix it or find a cure. That is what is so great about the human animal.
As for being an Agnostic. There is nothing wrong with being an Agnostic. It means you believe in a God or supreme being just not in organized religion. I too am an agnostic and like most agnostics I have my reasons which probably differ from yours. My wife and I raised our son to believe in a god and allowed our parents to introduce him to their religions. My wife and I were raised in different religions. Now that he is an adult he is free to follow what ever religion or continue as an agnostic and we will honor his choice.
I can understand your mother, if she is aware not being so liberal. My only advice to this problem is to try and stay under her radar with your choice. When she says anything about religion or asks you to go to church with her. Listen to what she has to say, answer her correctly to the conversation and then forget the conversation. IF she asks you to go to church with her I don't see anything wrong with that but it doesn't have to be every week. In other words until your 18 placate her. It is easier to placate her then to argue with her especially if you are not yet an adult. For until you are an adult she has ultimate control over you.
Placating or placation in these terms means for you ; peace between you and mom. It is not all that hard to do and peace has its own rewards for other things you may wish to do such as dating and lifting or extending of curfews.
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