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How do i deal with my bully?
Hey. Im a 17 year old female and a senior in highschool. I dont have a car so i ride the school bus to and from school. I have a circle of friends who i talk and joke with on the bus too. Im one of the last stops so my friends are often off before i am. There's this guy who talks with us on the bus but i dont consider him a friend of mine. He's a sophomore but he's bigger than me by a lot. He's around 6 feet tall and heavy set not necessarily 'fat' but all in all hes a pretty big guy compared to my 5'2 stature. Well anyway we all (me,my friends, and him) would talk together but as soon as my friends would leave he would start harrassing me. He would make fun of my feet, call me stupid, call me weak, etc. It hurts my feelings but I don't fight back I just laugh it off and hes constantly telling me i have low self esteem because i don't fight back. Honestly im not the type to waste energy on unnecessary stuff like looking for insults to throwback and im not very good at it so when I try i get laughed at. So I figured my best solution is to ignore him but he wont even let me do that. Today i tried putting my headphones in the middle of his rant and he pulled them out jabbed me in the side and and threw my headphones to the seat behind me. Im embarrassed. I don't want to tell the bus driver because it all seems like childs play. Im in 12th grade and letting myself be pushed around by some underclassmen? It hurts my pride and im ashamed to even mention it to friends because i feel as though that's what they'll say. But this situation is only getting worse. He doesn't mess with me everyday but it gets worse with every incident and theyre pretty random. Should i just keep trying to ignore him?
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You really have him now if you want to. When he pulled your headphone off he that was assault, a misdemeanor type charge. When he poked you it becomes a felony. His calling you names is harassment. Based on what he is calling you it could be elevated to sexual harassment and possibly felony charges. Bullying is also a crime now in most states. These are crimes for which you can if you wish call the police and file charges against him. At 17 years of age you do not need to have parental permission.
How to proceed; as I said you can make this a police matter or you can leave it to school authorities to handle. Harassing you and bullying you on the bus should not be tolerated. I would suggest you turn on your cellphone camera to record just before he would start to do this to you. You do not have to actually record him but you need to get his voice recorded and you telling him to stop. Then go to the school principal and play the recording for him or her.
You really shouldn't need the recording to make the complaint but the recording should be all the proof you need to have him removed from the bus. If the school does not take him off the bus then you play the recording for the police.
The recording is all the evidence the police will need to bring charges against this young man. You may wish to speak with your parents about this but I do suggest you bring charges. Young people his age think there age protects them. It does not and the sooner, young men especially, learn this better. Unfortunately some need to learn this the hard way.
Will he go to jail? Doubt full as this will most likely be handled in family court. But his parents are going to need to pay for a lawyer and they are not cheap. He will at the order of the courts probably be ordered into some type of program for youthful offenders and community service. If his parents are good parents they to will make him toe the line and problems for him and hopefully others will stop.
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