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My Ex is texting me like he did before we dated?
Less than two months ago my ex broke things off out of nowhere over text, things were starting to disconnect and the hype of summer about to start. There was never exact reasons it was just the most messy breakup and he just flipped on me and was done with relationships. Earlier this month, less than two months since our serious relationship he's dating this new girl who he said he didn't like and they've been posting over social media together. It's just weird and hypocritical...We were at a running camp together last week where he grinded and slow danced with another girl and then texted me apologizing about hurting me.. Since then we've been texting like our usual close friends way like we did right before we dated. What is he doing?
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There are two main things needed for a healthy relationship, being romantically & sexually compatible, and the other, being closest of friends. You don't know why he broke up so you're going to have to ask cus I don't know if you became physical or he didn"t feel a spark from just holdin hands and kissing. But merely applying logic here, if he is pursuing you along friendship veins right now, then it would seem his issue was certainly not that he felt you both had nothing in common to remain friends. that would leave only the romance side of things not being to his liking. Or perhaps the intensity of his feeling or how fast the relationship developed scared him and he needed time to pull away for a bit to think about it. I've had grown men do that. Its the way they process things and they can scare and get confused. A younger man may not know how to handle such a thing correctly, asking for space and alone time to think and just panic and break up in a totally fumbled way. So there's always a chance he came around faster to feeling he still likes you but now feels a stupid fool for the mess he got himself in and doesnt know how to restart things with you. He may have thought in desperation to ask some girl he doesnt like, to date him only for the purpose of trying to make you jealous so that you will want him back. Its a dumb childish action but yes, many of us are that dumb and naive when young and do such silly things when it comes to relationships. If he were really into his new girlfriend, he wouldn't have time to be texting you all the time and also apologizing? He is taking some steps to test the waters and see if you are responsive in a good way towards him or whether there is no longer a chance with you. So you need to have a good face to face talk. This way he can't hide anything, you have his facial and body expressions to go along with what he says. You need him to trust you and give you the truth. The only way to really know why he is giving you the time of day, his choice...is to ask. He may not be willing to answer at first, but toss out some scenerio's like the changing of his mind, or did he panic in the relationship at any ppoint or did he start dating the other girl to make you jealous. He needs to know that honesty is going to be what you ask of him and that you'll take nothing less.
Then again, he may think himself to be quite the ladys man and think he wants 3 or 4 women all hooked on him at once, thinking he's the best thing since the invention of chocolate! In that case, if you want to be monogamous rather than share him, you need to know if this is his goal and if so, let him know, if thats what he wants for his life, thats okay. Nothing wrong with that as long as all those involved are in full knowledge of it and okay with it. You happen not to be and so you ask him to stop pursuing you to add to a collection of girlfriends. Talk and telling of the truth is the only way you'll get the information you need to be able to make a decision as to what your next action is.
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