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My Best Friend is beginning to annoy me
Hi I am from Australia, and my friends and I are teenagers. I don't want to be friends with my best friend anymore. The problem is, I feel like I can't. She is in my friend group, and she's the only one in my friend group that's in my class. She is VERY sensitive that it is beginning to annoy me. She would jump to conclusions and then think to herself that "that must be what's happening", when it's not. Then she goes and crys to our friends about something that she thinks is going on. Then I walk over to my friends and she's crying to them and they're all comforting her while I look like I'm such a bad friend. Like one time she cried to my friends because she lost her gluestick lid and thought I had it and I was hiding it (which I wasn't) and then she cried to the girls about it! Is it just me or does that seem like something a 2 year old would do NOT a teenager! My friends don't see how sensitive she is and they think I'm the one that is rude, because I don't cry to them over like basically nothing! What do I do? I have tried to just not do anything that makes her upset but really, she gets upset somehow! Over legit the assumptions she makes and believes are true!
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If there are problems or stresses in her family life, that could be affecting her emotions so she can't handle simple things any more.
Considering we're talking about a teen female, its way more likely that the hormones of going through puberty are affecting her. Anytime from the onset of puberty until graduating HS, its common to see females in this age range lose control of their emotions. I am sad this isn't taught to young women to expect this along with expecting to get a period. I went through it, my sisters did, my daughters did, and all my friends did...it is something that affects the emotions. The regular levels of hormonal changes will make the more negative emotions more obvious and pronounced. So sadness and anger are affected. One can become more weepy and cry at the drop of a hat, for no good reason. More common is easily being annoyed or ticked off by someone, usually other females close to you such as m0m, sisters and girlfriends. She needs to be told that this is what she is going through so that she can attempt to control herself better, and you knowing this helps you to not take things personally and know its a passing phase of life.
Now the bad news: our world has gotten pretty toxic and is filled with synthetic versions of the female hormones all around in our environment that our bodies start to soak up so that by time we hit puberty and our bodies start to release more, we are hit by an overload. This doesnt happen to all of us but it does to enough girls. What happens in this case on the sadness part being out of control is girls becoming depressed, suicidal or into cutting themselves. On the anger side, well, they become real bitchy and mean and attempt to hurt others verbally and/or physically, lots of out of control yelling. It doesnt sound like she is on overload but she needs to know whats going on with her. Tell your mom that you think this is happening to her. If mom knows your friends mom, perhaps she will say something, or ask the friend to ask her mom about teen girls hormonal based emotion issues, ask if mom had it. We all get it so some degree, some very light cases, in my case I got weepy, irritated easily but knew to go to my own room and remove myself from the rest of family when I felt that way so I never lashed out in anger. My daughters though bickered between themselves and I had to remind them that no situation warranted the actions they were taking and they only felt that way cus of their hormones and had to encourage them to each seek alone time to calm down. Until your friend knows its not you or anyone else making her feel this way, she's going to blame you and everything else in the world for how she's feeling.
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