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My dad dosnt want me around!
i am a 26 year old female and I wrote on here a few times about how my cousins husbabd is like my dad . He use to always tell me that no natter what I do he would never be mad at me but he might be disapointed. But here lately our father daughter reltionship has changed and it seems like he is always pisses off me matter how hard I try and last night he made the comment he dosnt want to be here if iam here and went in his room and shut the door snd sleot the rest of the evening. I dont know what I did. I have always been honest with him about my mistakes it may havr took me a few months to tell him but I have never actually lied to him. He wont speak to me. How do,I fix things and get things bacm to the,way tgey were before when I dont even know what I did. Its like i as m not his daughter anymore and he said i aways would be.
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If you haven't done anything, then likely there are stresses in his life or other things, hurts or disappointments, not caused by you that may cause him to draw away and exclude you. Men can act in weird ways thinking they are doing the right thing. Heres an example. Before meeting my 2nd husband, I dated an one boyfriend (older adult) has some things happen that caused him stress and great unhappiness and had nothing to do with me. He felt that he would not be good company, not fit company and that in order to protect me from experiencing his reactions to his emotional issues at the time, he'd withdraw from me. I had to finally sit him down and have a good talk. He was puzzled that it hurt me for him to act so distant when he thought he was protecting me. Males can often be like that. they problem solve or see situations from a totally foreign perspective than females would and I will still say, that their way of acting by withdrawal still makes no sense to me but all I need to know is that it wasnt something I did knowingly or unknowingly to hurt the relationship, and thats all I need to give them the space they need to emotionally deal with whatever it is bugging them. If he can do that much, he owes you that much to let you know it wasnt something you did, then you could let him know that you'll give him the space he needs. But once he's done dealing with whatever it is internally and is ready to talk to you again, you'd appreciate him bein level with you and letting you know what was going on. In my case, I could have emotionally helped and supported the boyfriend better, actually it happened twice with two different boyfriends. Once a guy has resolved in his mind how to deal with what is troubling him, he will be ready to pick things up where he last left off as if nothing has happened. I did have one boyfriend thank me afterwards for not being upset but understanding when he asked for space and cut of communication. I had to wait until he was ready, and when he was, he explained everything because he knew I was emotionally mature enough ad stable enough to not react badly, or take things personally even if it wasnt me. Lots of guys will retreat instead of saying anything becuase they fear an emotional or drama reaction from a female. Some females, guys seem to expect that of them, whether theres something in their actions that warrant that concern or not, and they get really nervous not knowing how to comfort a certain female or calm her down if its bad news. My new husband almost got killed in a freak happening at work one day and didn't tell me about it until months later after no longer working there as he didn't want me to constantly worry every day about him. That is something males will do when they love you, they'll want to protect you emotionally from things, even though you may be able to handle it well as an adult. So have your talk. And if he doesnt respond, don't take it personally, its something he's dealing with. You could always ask your cousin but she may not know either as he likely hasn't let on to her what's eating him either or keeping a good pretence up with her.
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Did you tell him something that he didnt like that you did?
And honestly sit your dad down and tell him straight up that you don't know what you did to make him act like how he is acting. but you want it to stop and you want him to tell you why he is upset. Take him on a little walk or talk alone with him without anybody there. and if he is still acting like tell everyday you love him even if he doesnt say it back and just go on with your day. your a grown woman you have other important things to stress about.
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