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HI !!
Well problem is that dad and I. We dont talk much. Infact i stopped talkin to my dad just cause he doesn't has a car. I havent even urged him to buy a car...and i can't even say..or tell him to buy a car..as I don't want him to try hard just for me and buy a car.
Likewise, my dad is arrogant too and he doesn't listen to others even if it's for a good cause.
I don't have a mom neither..and since me and dad don't talk much I feel my dad feels lonely and seeing him like that and not able to do anything I feel like a very very very very bad SON!!!
Ii don't know what should I do? should I die?
Damn writing all these makes me tear up for no reason...ik it might sound nonsense but i need your help please!!
Thank you,
Friend.
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I'm figuring you're a teen or college age guy and at that age, one way to have our freedom is having a car to drive. That I understand. What I don't understand is why you believe that it is your Dads responsibility to provide a car You need to open communication lines again and do some talking. You have expectations. He has reasons for not owning a car and even if he did own one, wouldn't be obligated to allow you to drive it. You need to find out why he doesnt have one and ask him for ideans on how you might be able to work towards a goal of owning your own. If you want a car that bad, perhaps he'd be willing to give you ideas of how to save up for one or might even help fund that but it would be your responsibility.
Kids today grow up belieing their parents owe them far more than the basics of providing food, clothes and shelter, and education. But they want the name brand fashions, iphones, tablets, pc's, and cars. And may a kid born to someone like Bill Gates can have their every wish cus the parents have the money to throw at special things like that. But providing that for ones kid, is not needed to prove a parent loves their child. In fact, those who get Everything they want real easily end up still feeling like they are lacking something. They lack the love and attention. Money can't buy real love. I don't mean to sound mean or pick on you cus we've all done the same at some point in our life and need to realize that at any given point in time, if we're not watching our behavior closely, it can easily become spoiled, selfish. So you may want to look at your reasons for choosing not to talk simply cus you are not getting what in your mind you believe you are owed. That just isnt so. Parents don't owe their kids availability of a car to own. Many in big cities dont even own cars but do the mini car rental or use buses. Choosing to not talk to a person simply because you are not getting something you think they should give you, is actually a more sophicated way of a little childs throwing a tamtrum by throwing themselves on the floor with fists and feet flying. I've done the same when younger. A part of growing up is to realize when you are doing this and make choices to become more adult like and realistic in your expectations. Your Dad may have his faults but you will find even more of his type out in the world. Learn to get along with him, and you'll find it easier to navigate around other not so nice people in the world around you.
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TO stop talking to your dad just because he doesn't have a car does not make a lot of sense to me since there are many other forms of communication rather then him coming to visit you. That's assuming you don't live with him.
Before I can offer advice I need to know why not having a car is the reason you are not talking to your dad or if there are other reasons. Your right to wonder what you should do? not because you might die but what if he dies and you realizes your reason for not talking to him was foolish and you regret it for the rest of your life.
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