adviceman49 answered Wednesday August 5 2015, 9:19 am: You need to expand upon your question. "i need bleeding my first night," Tells us only what you need not why or the circumstances around your question. without this information it is impossible to give you a qualified answer.
If I had to guess I would say you are not a virgin. You are getting married and your culture requires you to be a virgin on your wedding night. If I have guessed correctly I would answer as follows.
While it is possible to fake the pain of first intercourse; It is not possible to fake the bleeding Though not all women bleed when losing their virginity. Today's definition of virginity for women is never having had penis to vagina intercourse. It does not mean having an intact Hymen.
Today’s active women can break their Hymens in many different ways. Among them are Tampon usage, bike riding, gymnastics (even the type done in school), horseback riding, doing splits and many other things.
The hymen is an elastic piece of tissue covering the opening to your vagina that deepening on just where it is, it differs from girls to girls somewhat, its elasticity and whether it has more than one hole in it. The hole is needed so Menstrual blood can come out. If the Hyman is elastic enough it can stretch to accommodate you husband’s penis and not break when he first enters you.
Now if I am correct in what I have guessed you could tell your future husband in advance not to expect you to bleed on your wedding night as you Hyman was lost due to Tampon usage or as a younger woman playing sports or other activity. while I understand the importance of marrying a virgin is to some cultures. Even so and with the knowledge that one can be a virgin and not bleed is it right to start a life with a lie? So you not owe it to your husband to tell him the truth? Is he coming to your bed a virgin?
There is nothing wrong with your culture and its ways. I just think it is wrong in today's world for a man to go out and enjoy a sex life and then expect his bride to be a virgin on their wedding night. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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