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Going crazy
22 girl.
Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face timing.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up". He tells me all this while im in the ER with my little brother burning in fever like it ws perfectly normal and I was suppose to let it go. Which I did. He then went out of the country to visit a sick family relative and since the girl he met here lives 10 mins from where he was he thought it would be a great idea to meet up with her and go out for drinks with her (he never does that with me, only when he was trying to win me over) and took her to a soccer game (2 years and ahalf and im still waiting for that experience since he loves soccer) the girl he met up with was the girl he was constantly Facetiming. the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much yet he still claims that they're both only his friends and that its all in my head... But my thing is if I were to be the one doing this, he wouldn't even be with me anymore. He constantly asks where I am, who I am with, what I am doing and always questions why.. I don't even get these questions for my dad and when I ask him why he's always questioning me he says its because he cares and if I wasn't hiding anything it wouldn't bother me.Fast-forward - I recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. He knows my situation and he's been trying to open my eyes saying something has to be wrong with my bf to not appreciate me. Every tme we are in the same room even if he isn't around me he will still look over make eye contact and smile at me. I love that. All his friends say that there's something there. but im not sure yet. and before I start anything new I need to figure out what im going to do about my current BF.
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It does sound like theres something going on between your boyfriend and this girl or else he wouldnt be taking her out ALONE and there would be no problem with simply waiting for you so that its a good time and you can come along, meet her too, and even become chummy. If hes not hiding anything then he should WANT you to know the same people he knew growing up.
It sounds like hes become smitten with her and bored with you, and he just doesnt have the balls as a man to just come out and tell you that its over. Any serious relationship where people from the past walk back into the picture isnt a bad thing (even if there was a slight crush years and years ago) Because they were very young and people can change alot over time. But he SHOULD want you to also know her and respect your feelings about you not being totally comfortable with them hanging out alone together. He should be proud of the fact that hes found you and that your together and happy and want to show you off to the world, not hide you like your something to be ashamed of. Thats a signal that things are not ok.
I would have said "you can hang out with her but not alone, and you dont have to cut off total contact with her since you have alot of history with her but talking to her all the time every single day period, is not necessary unless your intentions with her are less than honorable. aka (if shes a female friend thats fine but your in a relationship with another female and you wouldnt want to give off vibes that theres something going on with you and her would you??)
then see what he says.
For the most part though it sounds like the relationship has run its course if youve already spoken wiith him on a serious, non-overly emotional way and he still is not listening.
good luck and i hope it works out for you and the new guy that you clearly have feelings for.
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