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how to ask out a girl
How do I ask out a girl at school and I'm a boy
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If you are young, grade school, middle school, the only term people seem to understand or think valid here is "going out, asking out or dating".
What is happening here is that simply based on looks and what little of her behavior you can observe at school, you are 'attracted' to her. Attraction is the first step, It does not guarantee tho that both of you will still like each other once you get to know each other better.
I know you aren't best of friends with every guy in school. So why are your friends, your friends? Probably you have more things in common with them or things about them you liked better than in other guys, they were more fun or interesting. So you became friends.
Basically, this is the same thing that needs to happen with a girl. Your initial interest doesnt guarantee that you really will Like her or want to Date her for any extended amount of time once you get to know her. the same goes at any age, even as an other adult. So keep in mind that the first stage of getting to know more about a particular girl doesnt mean you are dating her or making a commitment to be her boyfriend. But at a young age, girls seem, due to inexperience, to assume if you ask her out, that you want her to be your girlfriend, a reality that you can not yet guarantee. this causes lots of hurt feelings, break up after only a few short weeks and lots of guilt feelings that are not necessary to go through.
So now, heres what you do. You take great care with what you say. You don't even know if the parents will allow her to 'go out' with a guy yet depending on her age. that would mean you are stuck to only being a boyfreind at school which means this will interfere with getting to know her better. But just tell her that you find her looks, maybe her laugh or smile attractive, and you would like to have the chance to spend some time with her so both of you can decide if you want to become bf/gf and date. If real young and she's not allowed out on single dates with a guy, check if she knows if a group date is okay with other kids, or lastly, would they allow a male friend of hers from school to come to their house just as any of her girlfriends do, to hang out with her. A few teens have done this, and the parents were around to chaperone and got to know the boy and found him to be a nice guy and really liked him. If you think you like a girl but aren't willing to meet her family like that, you may not be ready to start hanging out with a girl.
But try this. If you're stuck only seeing her at school, then spend any time you can asking her questions about herself. favorite music, food, hobbies, pastimes, what her hopes and dreams are, any siblings, what her parents are like, child hood memories, that sort of thing to get to know her. If she or you or both decide you dont have enough in common to find the other exciting enough to continue to spend time with, the best thing to say in splitting up is that you found you dont feel you have enough in common but thank her for being willing to get to know you. If older teens and theres romance involved, you can also say that you did not feel any chemistry.
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Ask her if you two can talk. tell her how much you care for her, and that you like her. From there ask her out. I hope she says yes. Good luck!
This comes from a girl.
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