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my boyfriend thinks i don't love him and is mad at me
well i was talking to this guy i love and he loves me too but earlier he got mad bc i left the room to spend time with my friends and i didn't really see him today so he wanted to spend time with me but i left. and now he thinks i don't love him or care about him yet i keep saying i do. he doesn't believe me ): and he keeps acting dry and saying yep & mhm. i don't know what to do anymore. then i am like look it looks like you wanna be alone so i should leave you alone and he's like sure do what you want. i don't understand. just bc of that he is really sad and stuff. now he is ignoring me after i said i love u.
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You're saying you love him, but he's not hearing it. Actions speak louder than words-do something romantic for him. Flowers and chocolates, or a romantic dinner, something like that.
What concerns me here, though, is that he's getting angry at you for spending time with friends. He's important to you, but it's also important to have Friendships. One person cannot be all things to you.I may be misinterpreting "he got mad bc i left to spend time with my friends", though.
So, if you really haven't been spending time with him lately, it's time to change that. If you're not sure if you're not spending enough time with him, talk to him about it. If he straight-up doesn't want you to have friends, though, that's not ok, and you need to talk about boundaries.
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Hi! He needs to learn how to respect your time and space. Maybe you made a mistake, but it was one mistake, not your fault! Instead of telling him you love him constantly, tell him how he's making you feel right now. If he wants you to love him and respect him he should do the same to you. Tell him that if he wants your love he needs to show you his. I hope this helps.
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hey.im a gal too but wt i knw abt most of guys is dat most of they feel dissapointed wen they wer promised something but it was not done.so looking at ur case your bf was expecting to spend a quality time wth you but it didnt go that way.he was dissapointed coz wen he wanted yoy de most you chose to go wth your friends.he may feel dat he s less important n dat you dont love him.i think you have to admit dat you made a mistake by leaving your bf when he needed you the most.apologising doesnt always mean that youre wrong and the other person is right but it shows how much you value your relationship.if you want to save your relationship you have to apologise.tell him that you are sorry and you didnt mean to hurt him.tell him that you shouldnt have left and you are sorry.if he dont want to talk or still mad,just give him space he will be okay n you two guys you will be fine again
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I know of something that might help the both of you. From what you say, it seems neither of you know what each others 'love' language is. Though the first link seems geared towards married couples, your own personal love language, what makes you feel truly loved will apply to boyfriend, friends and family members as well.
Please take the time to read about it to even have a clue what I am talking about. Ask your boy boyfriend to read the link after you do too.
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Now that you know what the love languages are, what is your top love language and any close followup? Theres a link next to a test to take to discover what yours is. I hadn't taken one in ages but know what my love languages are and took it before posting for you to make sure it is accurate and it is. Please understand that what you require to know you are loved is going to automatically be the thing you are most likely to do to show others you love them . However, if that is not their love language, then they won't necessarily feel the love from you if you arent using what is significant to you and vice versa. So your boyfriend needs this info and test as much as you do. If he is unwilling to take the time to seriously do this test, then he isn't worth your time in a relationship. He may be too immature yet.
Here's the test:
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