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Girl i like
there is this girl in one of my summer classes, that i'm into. so, i asked her if she would like to study with me and she agreed, so i gave her my number and told her to text me; which she did a few minutes after we said goodbyes. she replied to my next text as well. i texted her a few days later, she didn't reply and about a week after that, i had to leave class early recently, so i texted her a few days ago saying something about not wanting to irritate her further and asking if i could make a copy of her note, she replied saying "sorry i led you to believe that bit it's not because of you. i just have a lot going on..." which i believe. she then took pictures of her notes and sent them to me, i missed another class, and she sent me pictures from that class's notes as well, without me asking. If you're still reading by now, i just want you to know that you have no idea how much i appreciate it. anyway, I've tried to have conversations with her about 3 times after classes now, and she hasn't asked me a single question. but she always seemed friendly. on one hand i have myself convinced that she's just shyish, and on the other i don't wanna face the possible fact that there is nothing there. i really wanna get to know her better, but i don't wanna come on too strong. can you make anything of this?
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She may literally just think this was all only about having a study partner and have no clue that you like her. Put yourself in her place. She can't feel or sense what your heart is feeling, can't feel your emotions or pick up on your thoughts, all things which an empath can do. Obviously she is not one. So what is she going to see in how you talk to her or what you do when around her in class to have a clue that you like her? If It was me, I'd have no clue either. You may think that a girl asking you if she could study with you meant 100% for sure that she is interested in you, not the study. But how can you be so sure. Maybe she knows she is not so good at taking notes or doing homework and wants help. Maybe she asked some of the girls first and they didn't want to. Maybe she just thought you looked or seemed like the smart, studious type and thats why she asked. Or maybe the girl wanted a way to get a chance for you to know her a bit better to see if there was a chance to date.
Same here. So it has to be obvious, to the point. If not, girls tend to over-think and 2nd guess whatever a guy says or does if it isn't spelled out in black and white.
Maybe you could try the way my husband contacted me on a website. After explaining why I caught his interest and he didn't mention looks but my characters,, then explained what kind of a male he was, he then said he is leaving it up to me to decide if I want to meet him. If I said No, or did not respond, he would disappear into the shadows, never bother me again and become as if he never was. In your case, I find it may be good to be honest, after all it is a compliment, even if she isnt interested in you, she can't be mad.
tell her that you had several reasons to choose to ask her to help study. You did need the help but you chose her to ask because you were interested in her and didn't want to come on too strong. You want her to know so that she can decide for herself if she would also like to take the chance to get to know you by hanging out together at times other than studying and that its okay for her to tell you she isn't interested that way, in which case, to help her feel more comfortable now knowing how you feel, you will back away and not bother her and find another actual study partner. When you give her the control and are not pushy, it is not scary for the female and she may agree to still study with you. I cant say for sure as I dont know her personality. But it is very true that most females need a guys intentions spelled out in black and white so there is absolutely No way they can misinterpret it.
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