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My friend committed suicide.
I moved away from my best friend, and was devastated. I had a lot of trouble coping with that. Although we really missed and wanted to see eachother, we luckily both had phones. On my last day at the same school as her, got her phone number so we could still text and keep in touch. We would text for hours on end every day. This continued for a while. But then she started getting depressed- her family didn't love her and was abusive towards her. I tried to help her cope, but it didn't work. Later on, she became even more depressed when HER best friend committed suicide. And, to top it off, she went to a concert of her favorite band. When she got the phone number of her favorite member in the band. She called him a few nights later and asked him out. He said yes. She was overjoyed, and they had a good relationship for a while. However, after a few weeks of dating, he told her that the reason he had said yes that one night was because he was drunk. They broke up and she was devastated. All of her discomforts added up together made her make the one move that she could never, ever, undo. She committed suicide. However, I didn't know at the time. I texted her over and over for weeks, and she never responded. I begged her to text back, and asked why she didn't. And then, on one perfectly normal day, my day- and currently my life- was ruined. I finally got a response from her contact. However, it wasn't from her. It was from her mother. It said, "I'm sorry, but she committed suicide a while ago. I'm sorry that I didn't tell you sooner." So, now I'm devastated... I can't believe it... I will never see her again, and I don't know how to cope with it. Please help me.
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I know when a kid at a school my kids went to died, whether from accident, murder, or suicide the school wouldn't hide it. It was announced and they set up in school grievance counselors for any teens who needed it, to talk to. When my mom died of a long illness, the day it happened, we were told they would be sending a childrens grievance counselor to my sisters home and asked us to pull the kids out of school to have all the grandkids assembled for grievance counseling.
So if you tell your parents and they can't set up for someone to talk with you, then see your school counselor ASAP, explain what happend and you need help coping with it. Authorities take these things seriously where I live, I would assume it is so for all children and teens thru the country.
You can't get over this on your own. Grief is a complicsted process and has many stages it goes thru which are all important even the anger stage. If a person skips any stages or gets stuck and stays in one stage, they will never get over their grief. Someone gave me a good book when my mom dies. It was called "Good Grief". I dont believe it is published anymore as it is very old but there must be other good books to read that help guide you through the grieving process. Dont rush though, just to finish a book on grief, give yourself the time you need to successfully come through one stage before going on to dealling with the next and yes, there is pretty much an order to it in which humans naturally will go thru the process even without knowing what a counselor or book says the stages are. But it sure helps to have those who understand exactly what you are going thru.
I am sorry for your loss but dont want to see it affect yu in a way where you decide to stop moving forward with your life simply because she is no longer around. Do seek help from the proper sources.
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You have to mourn, grieve, cry. Let it all out. Let yourself feel that pain and loss and let it out. Mourn your friend and honor her memory.
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