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Hi I'm a 31 year old male, and about 6 months ago I ended a 4 year relationship, And about 6 weeks ago I met another young lady, thing is with my last relationship, we had the biggest connection ever, Like we were inseparable... And with the new girl, she's attractive, have a nice career... but it's too demanding, and some days we barely talk, she goes to bed to early, we mainly communicate via text message, because we live in two separate states, so when we do communicate, it's always so many time lapse between texts, and I like her, but she bores me, are conversations never have any real foundation, and she's just seems too busy for a relationship... Yet she makes the effort to text message me daily, multiple times a day, Were barely together, because like I said her career is way to demanding, and she travels a lot... But for some reason, I've been trying my best to hold on, and make it better... but everyday is the same... I mean I love advice from ppl who have no attachment to me whatsoever, it's more honest that way... What should I do? I want to remain the good guy here
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Hey,
I know this will sound tough but i think it's the only way
By reading your question i got a side of the topic as you said
You left from a big relationship and you don't want her to be heartbroken but as you said she lives two states away and there is no action in this relationship you meet once a while and mostly text but remember in a relationship both must be happy and as it seems you just enjoy the communication but
A relationship is doomed if it has no regular live contact not calling or texting what i'm saying if you haven't understood yet is that you must end this thing if you're not happy end it you might feel like a jerk but it's the best thing for you
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Sounds like its not much of a relationship. The distance both physically and emotionally is too great for it to work. There's no communication. You don't even talk on the phone, just text. No point keeping fighting for a relationship that's holding on by a thread. That's worse than just ending it and moving on with your lives.
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Do you want to be the good guy, or do you want to be in a relationship that makes you happy.
Doesn't sounds like this relationship is working for you. That doesn't mean she's bad or wrong - don't try to make her the 'bad guy' just because you wanna be the 'good guy'. It just means that what she wants and needs from a relationship may be different than what you want and need.
You need to man up and own your own feelings here. She doesn't 'make you' feel lonely. You are lonely. You should fix that. Maybe fixing that means not being a in relationship with her. If you need to move on from this relationship, do that honestly and clearly. In your lame attempts to be a 'good guy' you may end up acting like a selfish jerk. Don't be a jackass who invents reason to hate this woman just cause she isn't the woman you want to be with - be selfish in a smart way. Decide what you want, and try your best to go get it. If that doesn't include being in a relationship with her, then end it clearly and respectfully.
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