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I dont know if you can tell what people posted before but I asked for help because of my 15 year old sister (im 12) because she was being unreasonable against my parents but I just found out that they are being REALLY annoying to her(especially my dad), he has been making her take school VERY VERY seriously, making her write in her agenda, which noone uses not even in my grade, and he has been really serious and giving her talks alone in her bedroom with the door closed(which means hes being really serious). Like I said in my other question, I dont really need advice, I just need to tell someone and I wanna feel heard but I dont wanna go pour out all my feelings on my friends because I know that they wouldnt really care and they would find it annoying.
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I understand and you are a good sister for being concerned for her. What you see happening is probably coming up for you when you're in HS as well.
I dont know what your parents are really like. Some parents are loving but strict and the kids may think they are horrible annoying parents.
When a person has a baby and raises that child, babies don't come with instruction manuals and lots of people have natural parenting skills, while others don;t at all and make all the serious mistakes they could with a child. You both are at an age when gaining some independance is good and this is a good time for parents to change how they parent allowing you to make some choices of your own within a set boundary of limits. Some parents just dont get it and so all they do to compensate is get on the kids nerves.
There is only real need for concern and reaching out for help if they neglect to provide the basics of home, food, clothes and such until a child turns 18. Thats a law. You girls also have a right to be treated with respect, your bodys belong to you, no one else can touch or do anything abusive to you. That includes physical or sexual abuse and verbal abuse which is constant attack with words. If anything of the sort is going on, or you're not sure if it qualifies as such, go talk to a school counselor with your concerns of whats going on. Otherwise, you both will just have to do your best, talking calmly to parents and making a pact to be pleasant and not over react if they will also to willing to listen and give you some leeway to begin to learn in tiny steps how to be an adult. That may in fact be what they are doing that you find annoying but in the long run, you and sis have a better start at adulthood when you turn 18 and are off to college or move out on your own. If any of the things they ask and expect of either of you don't make sense, you can always ask. Not 'why do I have to? in a whiney voice. But "I want to understand why you want me to do this. Not that I am not willing but I need to understand the purpose you see in teaching me to use an agenda. That principle are you trying to teach me? Cus I can just follow thru and obey your rules but never get what you were trying to teach me. So I would like to from now on be able to fully discuss things like this with you. That is a very adult like conversation and they most likely will see by the words that their child is maturing and really to have these kinds of talks and explanations from them.
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