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Recent 2 year relationship over
I want to know three things:
1. Is she missing me or thinking about me?
2. Is there a chance I can get her back?
3. Why is she acting so mean to me
My girlfriend left me after two years and 3 months out of nowhere and her reason was "she didn't have feelings anymore" Later on her mom told me that she still loved me, she just needed to be free for right now. Yet she is already interested in another guy and is treating me like a complete stranger. She also threw a bunch of my stuff that I ever gave her away and blocked me from communication (text). Now that I realize the only problem in our relationship was that we were never separated, basically around each other for everyday without giving one ounce of space. People say to me, they don't know why she is going to this extreme and many tell me I treated her amazingly. She is in high school and I'm in college. I just want to keep fighting for this girl because she is special to me and people know that. Thank You for your advice.
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Im sure shes thinking about you alot theres no doubt about that, even close friendships that have ended suddenly dont just STOP thinking about each other come on, be realistic here. People who are a big part of you life dont just vanish from your memory just because you stop talking to each other.
I dont know if theres a chance you can get her back because we dont know where she is mentally right now, if your the only guy she shes ever been with and shes feeling like shes free then she may try out a few guys here and there and discover that (if you were in fact really good to her) she should come back to you because there arent many guys like you. So hang in there and see if she'll eventually wake up and if you let her know that your always within reach to just talk then that'll be your chance to work your way back in with her.
I dont know why shes acting mean, if theres a problem she has with you and didnt get talked about because of lack of communication then YEAH shes gonna be mean. but deep down she knows exactly what shes doing and knows its probably not right and will wake up one day and see that it wasnt and regret it if you really were a good guy to her. The thing here is that, that is HER lesson to learn, not YOUR lesson to suffer through. Dont blame yourself because someone else doesnt want to admit something to you or work through things, if you made an honest attempt then you did the best you could and the ball is in her court now.
Its nice that her mother feels so comfortable with you that shes willing to tell you how she thinks her daughter still feels about you but theres a limit to her creditably there because she only knows so much about whats in her childs heart when it comes to you. Maybe you could make sure that she knows that you really appreciate her trying to make you feel better and all and that youll always be here if her daughter tells her she regrets anything that happened between you and here and that she CAN come back and talk to you because your open to talking and working through things.
I live by the phrase "you cant fix it if you dont know whats wrong"
This also applies to relationships, if she doesnt tell you whats wrong then how can you adjust and accommodate yourself to her needs accordingly?? no one is a mind reader.
i dont know how old you two are but it sounds pretty immature and juvenile to brake up with someone so spontaneously for such a reason.
good luck
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1. Yes, and yrs. She's still thinking of you, that's for sure, and I can tell you, she misses you hella lot. Heck! I even miss my enemy now that she left, how much more if a person whom I love/loved crossed my thoughts.
2. Yes, there is, there's always a chance dude! Look, the only reason why she broke up with you is because of the cage you placed her into, and now, she's free, but still, she's surely in shock being out and she'll miss the nice warm cage you made for her.
3. Because... Girls! Sometimes they're insensitive, but trust me, she was just on her period, she should regret it by now.
Advice: Go talk to her, not to her mom.
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We can't know if she is thinking about you.
We can't know if there is a chance for you to get back together.
She's not being mean. She's being 'broken up'. Blocking you and getting rid of gifts is a perfectly normal - not mean - part of a break up. It may hurt your feelings, but it's not her being mean to you; it's her being single.
You can't fight for her as long as she's decided that she doesn't want to have any contact with you. If she's blocked you, then you actually need to respect that. If you can still email her, or reach out on social media, you could do that, but if she's blocking or ignoring you there as well, then I'm sorry, you just need to make peace with it.
You can't force her to speak you. You are not entitled to speak to her, if she doesn't want that.
You don't know that the ONLY problem was that you were always together. That might be the only problem you see, but it doesn't mean it was her only problem. You can't know what problems she felt your relationship had, unless you talk about it, and if she doesn't want to talk about it, she doesn't have too.
The best, healthiest thing you can do right now, is to ask your friends to stop gossiping around you! It's mean of them to be sticking their nose in your, and her, life like this. They are only making you more upset and confused. Nothing they say is reliable. Nothing they say can be trusted. The only things that can be trusted are things she says to you - and she is entirely entitled to not speak to you.
If there is a way you can reach out, that she hasn't blocked, do that, however, part of being broken up is not knowing what the other person is thinking or feeling. That's a big part of breaking up. You can't force her to let you in, and you shouldn't be using her friends or family to gossip. You have to get used to not knowing anything except what she tells you.
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