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understanding teenage love
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So I've noticed that my freinds and the kids around me make their love interest their world. I don't understand why they do this. I have a girl freind and I do love her but I realize I can love her without building my world around her. I'm a sophmore in high school! 2 of my really close freinds are dateing and after a week they became convinced they are soul mates, that their getting married and they couldn't live with out eachother(they've been dateing for 3 months now and are my same age). I just dong understand. Is my idea off that we are teenagers and that relationships really are not as serious as people my age think their realationships are. Or am I just completely in the wrong way of thinking here? Please give me your honest oppinons.
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Honestly, as much as it can be annoying to watch your friends behave in this way, some of your friends will STILL be doing that at 30 years old. Most will grow out of it - but not all.
It's not merely a reflection of their youth, it's also about values and how they approach relationships.
The more important thing is that both of the people who are in the relationship, are happy and having a good time. It sounds like you and your girlfriend would be miserable if you went around mooning and fantasizing like that! I'm that way too. It would creep me out and/or bore me if I had a relationship where someone was talking about 'soul mates' right off the bat.
However, this is a case of different strokes for different folks. You are certainly right that your approach is much more realistic, but you should also try to be respectful of other kinds of relationships. If two people are happy to be together, that's great. If they are driving you bat-shit, that is something to share with them as a friend - not because they are wrong - but because they are annoying you enough that it is putting a strain on your friendship.
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I'm beggining to think we'll be great friends. First off, do you know what that ideology means? It means that you're intellegent! Yes, your two friends might look smart, but they are actually pretty ignorant (no offense). Teenage love is an illusion, remember that. We're all kids :-) When our friend has this toy, we dont want to be left out. Tell me, do you see your girlfriend as a wife or as a bestfriend? If you chose the latter, then you're the correct one. Trust me, soulmates at 14? Ignorance.
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