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Do guys care if you don't like their friends
So I had tension with this guy for a while, if a few classes with him and always acted into each other but nothing really ever happened. Then this week he finally admitted he was into me and I said me too and he asked me out. The next day tho we happened to be at the same club and hooked up , which. I wouldn't normally do but since he already asked me out I figured it was okay, now we're speaking casually a bit (it's been like a day since then) but haven't discussed anything. Was it a bad idea to hook up with him first? Does this change things? Shoud I expect that anything will come of this or no? ... On a separate note, he's friends with a lot of guys who I'm really not friends with and don't like being around, frat people and soccer players etc just really not my type, we all know who each other are and had a lot of opportunities to be close and cose not to, is this gobna be an issue for him do you think tht I don't want to be hanging around them all the time or do u think hell be ok with it?
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Hooking seems to mean many different things to different people. To some, its just kissing and touching all with clothes on, for others it's clothes off and anything goes exception penetration, and for others, they mean they went all the way. When girls are concerned about 'anything' they may have done early on with a guy misleading him about you, you don't have to be...if there is chemistry that way between two people, it can happen and a guy who was intending to date you to get to know you more as a person, not just sexually, is going to be thrilled you do well in that department and be more focused on wanting to just do other normal things with you too. SO as was already suggested, follow this up with invites to a date to do something other than any kissing fest or other more sexual stuff. If he is willing to do other things with you as well, you have nothin to be concerned about. If all he seems to want each time he sees you is sex, perhaps he was never really interested in you for anything more in the first place and you'll have to decide if you want him just as a sex partner until you find Mr. Right for a long term relationship. Or just don't even go there with him.
As for his friends, you don't have to become buddys with them and if you find nothing in common with them, and he tends to like to get together as a group with them inviting you along, why not ask to invite a girlfriend along then, so you have someone to talk to while he is chatting with friends and you have no one you care to hold conversation with. Or just let him know you prefer spending time along with him but if he wants to go hang with his friends, its okay, just not to expect you to go along with. Guy's aren't going to have a problem with that. It may be more important to him to hear what you think of his parents and siblings when the time comes than his friends. It all depends on the person. If he does have a very close best friend he's had a long time, not just a group of so so friends, it'll be more important that you at least can stand his best friend as that person is important to him in the same way as family members. But a group of guys he hangs with usually isn't a big deal.
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If you wanna go out with him, set a time and a place and ask him to show up. You just say "Hey, I really want to do X, do you?" and then ask him when. It's really that simple.
Dates never happen without a time and a place. The best bet is to ALWAYS set a time and place right when someone first asks you out.
We can't say what he might think or feel about you now, or how much he cares about you being buddies or not with his friends. The only way to get answers to those questions is to get to know him better - start on that by setting a time and place to actually hang out one-on-one!
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