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Is she okay?
Hey so my girlfriend hasn't talked to me in a day or two, and she hasn't been on Instagram or snapchat, I don't think she's talking to anyone. Now I know about her past, and it might be something to with something she's done before, but is she okay? Is there any way I could talk to her about this or should I like let her do her thing or??? Girls please help. I'm 14 so preferably a girl my age :(
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Well, its been a long time since I've been your age but I DO remember clearly what its like to be 14 and I had 3 daughters, now in their 20's, so I got to experience that age all over again.
First off, I'll say that not talking to you for two days is nothing serious. She could be ill, or busy with something the family is doing, or preoccupied with worry about problems at home or maybe a loved one in the hospital or some such thing that drags her attention away from chatting for a few days. If it continues long term, then there may be serious issues and I will cover that.
I don't know if you are female or male. If female, surely you must know by now that since puberty hit, some things are different for most girls as far as their feelings go. The extra hormones now going through the female body makes their emotions go haywire for a while. In some, they've also picked up too much estrogen from the world we live in, so polluted...and when the extra hormones of puberty hit, its not just some tendency to cry at the drop of a hat or to become easily irritated with others for no reason but goes to full blown depression from overwhelming sadness or a nasty anger streak. This and the more common thing for both guys and gals is a self esteem issue and wanting to be liked by all but finding themselves lacking in some way in their own eyes.
You didn't say what she's done before that has you so concerned, so I'm in the dark here. If you think she's suicidal, it doesn't matter if she gets angry with you for telling, you need to tell someone. In case hormones are a problem medication from a Dr. can stabilize that, if its her self esteem or depression, a professional counselor could help with that.
It is good that you are a concerned friend. If you're a guy and just don't understand her, it's a good idea to try to ask her to help you understand girls so you can be a better supportive friend as a male to her and/or them. Then just say you were concerned from not hearing in two days and understand there could be a good reason but since it's so unlike what she is like normally, it made you wonder if she is okay. Thats a supportive way to check on her. If she's got something on her mind, she might confide in you, and if there's nothing, she might take the chance to say so and then you won't have to worry anymore.
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