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Crushing on my friends crush
My friend told me she liked this guy. Me and her crush started talking a little, and I started to like him. I always thought he was attractive even before she liked him, I just thought he had a crappy personality until I talked to him. Should I tell my friend or should I keep it to myself beacause he probably doesn't like me anyway?
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I agree with dragon here, you should let her know that you also think hes cute but that your willing to let her have first shot at him.
Tell her that if he doesnt like her or things dont work out that you want to try with him after and see if you still like him too. If shes your friend she'll be greatful that you allowed her to have first shot at him.
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Females of any age can get quite territorial over guys and not like it if another girl gets to her guy or the guy she is crushing on.
What you need to understand is that if a girl and guy are already dating, then he's off limits. Until he and she have spoken and it is discovered that he likes her too and wants to date her, he is not committed to her or anyone like that, then he is open territory and you can go ask him out.
If you are both equally likeable to him lets say, then it's first come, first to get.
The only catch here is, if you did not know a friend was crushing on the same guy and happened to ask him out, and he accepts, there's nothing to fault you for as far as your friendship with her goes. Now, knowing that she is crushing on him, if you go ask him out, that will hurt your friend and possibly strain the relationship between you and her for a while. It's not a grievance to break up a friendship over but many females can be immature enough to let it get to them. What is best is that you let her know that in talking, you've found that you actually like him alot too. If it wasn't for her, you'd be asking him out. You both don't know yet which one of you he might like better, or he may have no interest in either of you. You could tell her that if she's serious about him, she should go ask him out. You'll give her that chance first since she was the first to have interest in him. But if she doesn't go for it or he isn't into her, then you will go for it. But she has to know, its not competition, just that you happened to notice some things you like about him as well. Its also likely that if both of you can see his likeable attributes, so can other females and there could be quite a few who secretly like him. Its a girls world when it comes to relationships. Not all guys are brave enough to ask a girl out. But many are more than willing to date a girl if she asks.
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