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ex husband: I miss him and I would take him back in a heart beat but why?
I was married 5 years one child together I h aven't seen my .ex husband in a year and half. He's dated several girls since we split up he left because I confronted him about not paying the rent next I knew he was done walked away took our only vehicle. Etc. I ended up moving north and had to start my life over. During the marriage he stole from my father he's stole from my son he'd lie about taking my son to his baseball practices etc. don't get me wrong we have a ton of good memories with the bad. I miss him and I would take him back in a heart beat but why.. he has said he would do anything to
make things right
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Dear I was married,
While I believe it's possible to build a bridge over bitter water, my experiences lead me to think that it's best to move forward rather than look back.
My advice to you is to keep all your options open but move very slowly with any plans that include your ex. You need a partner not a parasite. You need to be sure that any reconciliation will be an advantage to you and your son and not merely a replay of the first 5 years of your marriage.
Best wishes!
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you would take him back for a few reasons but only you know them. ill name some and YOU take some time to look inward and ask yourself if this is why:
your scared because youve been with him for so long that hes all you know and you dont know how to start over
your scared to start over or think he got the best years of your life already and no one will want you now (which couldnt be further from the truth its never too late to begin anew with someone else)
He was a huge influence on you (understandably) and you either dont do HOW/dont want to/ or think your too weak emotionally to be strong enough to stand up on your own two feet without him. (see reason number one on this also)
hes the father of your child so you think you owe it to him to stay with him.
you think theres still something there worth saving. which at this point there isnt because hes made it blatantly obvious that there isnt by dating other women, and your in denial.
you think youll never meet anyone else like him and you have to try to salvage any tiny pieces of what you had.
the list could here could go on and on, and because none of us really know you we cant tell you WHY and know for sure that it would help you. only you can answer that. answer your self why and write down the first thoughts that come into your brain, dont think too much into it just write, and youll then have your answer.
keep the paper. then get some more paper and try writing down all the good and that bad things about him. alot of times just knowing that your writing down more bad things then good is enough to make someone realize it wasnt worth it.
Could there be a chance here that you dont feel complete without him??
if so i think you should try to seek counseling, or just take some time away from men in general for now and try to work on yourself. Get some self help books, go to forums for healing after a divorce and tell your story there. There are others there who will be able to help support you through this difficult time.
Try also focusing on your child, getting more involved in your not already, read, garden, take up hobbies, work out. Just keep your mind off all this and take some time for you.
good luck sweetie youll make it ; )
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