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F\18 hey am highschool senior i am in love with z same boy 4 three yrs now, i knw he loved me n asked me to be his gf about 3 yrs ago but i said no, i don't knw hw he feels now but i knw mine.., we r on z same class but we don't talk like classmates wen we see eachother we act like we don' t even knw each other, but z amazing thing is zat we talk by Watsapp we even make fun of eachother. as many of my friends think zat we will endup together i also think z same, u knw zat chemistry ya we definetly have it, i can't stop imagining us together, i even go to school just with a tought zat i will find him at z gate and we will go together talking, coz its so awkward talking by watsapp n not talk by person but i never even once had a chance of finding him , n we both have a bad behaviour which is pride.. too much. am a serious kind of girl, zats how everybody knows me, like i don't like boys, i hate relationship n like zat but no one knows zat am like zis inside, zey make fun of me all z time n zey say zat i have feeling for him too but i always deny... say like" me with him never" but deep inside am just trying to hide my feelings, i don't like anybody knowing ,but lately i think its getting obvious coz my pretending skills are getting weaker, i don't even know how i act when i see him... i tried many things to forget him i even started to point out his bad features just to forget him but nooo his not easily forgoten person!! besides zat there are so many reasons i can't be with him now.. but i can't handle it, when he starts a conversation on WApp i just become so happy n excited but when he don't talk to me even if he is online i get so mad, n jelous, n he is a diffrent kind of guy i hve never heard even one guy like him, we have never talked about love or that kind of stuff we always talk about school, music, film but never about his feelings or mine, he is just different even when he asked me to be his gf he never faced me he told me by his bestfriend, at zat time we didn't speak for like 6 month but even after we made peace he never talked about a thing i don't know maybe he is just like me who hides feeling, but in g-10 his one friend called me n told me zat his friend loves me very much (z one who asked me to be his gf) n said zat he even cryies whenever zey talk abt zis kind of stuff n tell zem not to talk n he said zat he is telling me zis without him knowing n asked me to say yes to him but i still said no n told him zat we could be friends n zat he can call me but he didn't i don't know what kind of person he is..... but i just don't know wat to do with my life p/s any sugesstion???
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If he's asking a friend to ask you, then he must be a very shy person, unsure of himself and scared to talk to girls. If he's 18 too, I would think he'd have had some practice talking to girls by now but perhaps not.
What ever his feelings for you, you are right it is not the place to start by immediately agreeing to become boyfriend/girlfriend. That is the way most young people do it and it doesn't last for long.
Since you are 18, you will most likely be wanting to find a guy who can become your long term partner, or life long partner, marriage or not.
You may not be ready to commit to marriage for many years yet, but nows a good time to narrow down what you like and don't like so you have to start somewhere AND most likely will need to experience several different relationships to have a best idea of what you are looking for.
The relationships I speak of require two important things to last, starting first with being compatible as friends, being able to be each others best friend and not every guy you meet is going to be able to become this for you but this is very important and this is when you find someone you will treat you like his Queen and have a deep real love for you cus friends treat friends with love and respect, they don't mistreat each other or you wouldn't be friends with them. Next importance is sexual compatibility. Some go for this first but are unable to become good friends. Its better to find the best friend first whom you both feel a romantic chemistry for each other.
That all said, it's up to you whether you want to pursue this guy or not but you've got to start somewhere to begin to gain experience, so why not start here if you are attracted to him as well.
Start with offering to 'hang out with him' doing stuff together, spend time together this is not a commitment to become partners/a couple but the preliminary part of dating to determine whether you truly have enough in common to become close friends and more. If what you find is not to your liking for what ever reasons. You tell him it won't work, there's not enough chemistry as friends or romantically. If you both discover you really get along well and develop deeper feelings, then is the point where you'd be willing to make the commitment to be his girlfriend. Commited couples can end up living together also, either married or unmarried but that commitment is there.
Present it to him this way and see if he goes for it on your terms, if not, he isn't worth your time but do start the dating process with someone you are attracted to.
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