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Why are people so bothered about Kylie Jenner dating Tyga?
When I was 17, I wanted to date guys in their 30s, not even early to mid 20s. It just seems like jealousy, like because they couldn't get with a guy they wanted at that age, Kylie shouldn't have that happiness. Rape or other types of abuse can happen regardless of age gap. So why so much condemnation of this couple?
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It's totally normal for young people to be attracted to older people, or for older people to be attracted to younger people.
However, when those younger people are still minors, it's the older person's job to recognize that just because they are attracted to one another doesn't mean they can have a healthy, respectful relationship based on equality.
A seventeen-year-old, no matter how smart or wonderful or rich, is not the legal or social equal of an adult person. You have different rights and responsibilities when you are teenager. Which means those relationships are inherently unbalanced, and can very, very easily, even unintentional, be harmful or abusive towards the younger person.
Older people, who seek out these arrangements with younger people, are often not looking for respectful relationships. They are looking for the power that they get from dating a much younger person.
Rape and other abuse CAN happen regardless of age gap, but it happens WAY, WAY more often when there is a large gap in power. Power is the problem, age is just the representation of that problem. As an adult Tyga has way more power, legally and in our culture, then Kylie does and nothing can magically make that not the case. There is no way to change that. Even if they worked really hard at it, there relationship would still reflect that imbalance in power. That's why there is so much condemnation.
Of course, they are free to be in a relationship - it's not illegal - but other people are equally free to think it's bad idea.
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First off, until about the last 50 years, royalty only married other royalty, largely in order to preserve their power.
But if you really don't see the difference between a sane adult choosing to marry another adults who happen to be royalty (most of whom have relinquished their power in democratic countries and are now merely symbolic) to an adult who is dating a minor... I don't know what to say to you. Those two things may have had something in common 200 years ago - and also 200 years ago it was generally okay for 40 year old men to marry teenage women - but currently, they have nothing to do with one another at all. Royalty in democratic countries do not enjoy more rights than anyone else gets.
If you want to look into countries that are not democratic, you will find that the non-royal person in a relationship is very often abused and treated horribly, because the royal has more legal standing than the person who isn't.
Which was kind of the exact point I was making: Adults, have more legal rights than children and are capable of making more choices about their lives. That power can be used to harm others.
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