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I'm crushing on all of my best friends!
Hi! So I'm female and am 13 years old. So basically I had a close friend who I hang out with loads, and I developed a crush on her. I started hanging out with her a bit less and found a new 'best friend' to hang out with. And yeah I developed a really bad crush on her. Now as I'm hanging out with someone new- I'm developing a crush on her now! I don't know what to do. I haven't told any of these that I have a crush on them, but I just feel really awkward because I only normally have one crush at a time, but if I'm with them and hanging out with any of them. The feelings will come back. I say a crush as in I get the feelings to make it a dating relationship rather than a friendship. I don't know why I'm doing this, I'm at an all girls school by the way. If I was at a mixed school I probably would be more fixated on the boys (I'm bisexual by the way) but I'm not so I just keep on doing this. I don't know what to do! Advice would really be appreciated- thanks! xx
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At thirteen, theres a heavy load of hormones coursing through your body still, even though you may have a period and developed breasts. Once you reach 18 and look back, you'll see that you still had a lot of growing and changing left as the body continues to mature. THis overload of hormones is likely whats got you crushing on so many at once. I wouldn't worry about it. You've figured out your sexuality. These girls may have or not. If they haven't mentioned any such thing to you, bring up the topic and ask if they think they are straight, bi-sexual or gay, transgender etc. I'll say one thing about exploring sex with a girl at this age, one thing you don't have to worry about is becoming pregnant, so if you're bi, this is a good way to start. Do not attempt to convince or change the views of those who are straight. Due to wanting to experience more than one girl, I would advise to avoid lesbians too as they will be just as jealous of you also seeing another girl as a straight female feels if her boyfriend sees another girl. If a known girl you like is lesbian, then let you know of your interest but let her know you are bi and have interest in several girls and will that bother her. If so, don't get together with her that way. The safest thing is to go after girls who say they are bisexual. Keep in mind that chemistry will probably work here same as in a hetero. relationship and even if bi or gay, if she feels no attraction to you that way, it won't happen and doenst reflect on you personally or your character.
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Well are these girls also bisexual or lesbian because if they are not then I am not sure there is much you can do other than maybe nonchalantly ask "have you ever had feelings for another girl? ". If they say yes then you could ask other things like "have you ever thought of being in a relationship with another girl? ". If the answer is yes or if you already know they are interested in females then the only thing you can do is be honest and ask how they would feel being in a relationship with you. Then atleast you will know you have a chance in the future. I think ,being a girl myself, I like it and would be flattered by the honesty and boldness. If they answer no to being with another girl or having feelings for another girl then you will know you will just have to appreciate the friendship and wait for someone else to come along. You will have to choose only one and take your time to make sure you make the right choice if they both say yes. hope it works out!!! Good luck!
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