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I don't know if my crush is lying about him liking me
My friend found out I like him and started avoiding me. I told him I understand it is awkward but I still want to be friends. He replied that he 'kinda likes me but rather not do anything about it' and I really matter to him but I have a feeling he is lying so that it does not break my heart. Because I feel he is still kind of avoiding me. Is it wise to tell him I do not think he is being honest? Because it hurts me to think someone is lying to me. It has been a week since I messaged him about it and I do not know if it is too late to ask. Both of us are in high school.
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Back way off with this guy. Be friendly and approachable but don't ask him anything. This is a wait and see situation. He may come around and he may not. This is his loss, not yours.
Here's my advice to you, when you next find yourself interested in a guy, it isn't a problem to send signals, spend time with him, talk to him, find out about him but Don’t come on to him or reveal your affectionate feelings in words. Just spend time getting to know him and his interests. He'll get the message, usually sooner rather than later. The ball is now in his court. If he's interested in having a relationship with you, he should be willing to take the risk of revealing his feelings for you.
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You can have all the suspicions you want about a person but to tell them you think they are lying is asking for trouble. Of course it hurts if you feel someone is not being honest. I am by nature a very suspicious person but I do not come out and accuse a person because if I did and it was just that one time I might be wrong, I could do great damage to a possible friendship. I would have a slightly different thing to say if this was a long established relationship, a committed couple or marriage.
If you still don't understand, lets pretend just for the sake of understanding why its better not to tell him you think he's lying, lets pretend you lied to someone and they come up to you and accuse you of lying. You'd get angry, simply because they figured it out, and that starts a fight. Or you never lied to them but they come and tell you they think you are lying. You'd be hurt, but also angry and not want anything to do with them for a while or maybe forever. It's a no win situation. So whether he's lying or not, if you want him for a friend and say that to him, he's probably going to react in a negative way, no matter if its true or not.
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