Question Posted Wednesday January 28 2015, 8:58 pm
Okay so, Valentines day is coming up and..... well im in 6th grade and if i want to give a card to my crush but what should i do what if he thinks im desperate. Im sure youve been through this so i trust your advice. i just dont want to make a bad empression and seem well weird and i dont want him to turn me down then id be emotionally scarred.
-Confused and (not wanting crush to think im DESPERATE:[ ) 6th grader GIRL
It won't seem like you're desperate on Valentine's Day - if you were to give him a Valentine, say, in April, well ... that might make you look desperate! :) But on Valentine's Day, well - that's what it's for! :)
You can be sure that he is just as afraid of making a bad impression as you are. He may not like you the same way - but then - maybe he does. Maybe he just hasn't ever thought of it before.
The important thing to remember is that whether he likes you or not, it does NOT reflect on YOU. You can't control what someone else thinks or feels. It will be embarrassing if you show that you like him, and he turns you down - and it will be horrible if he's rude about it - but no matter what - it does NOT change who you are - and you will never know either way, unless you take that chance.
There are going to be times all through your life when you are rejected for one reason or another - it's part of life. It's the part that makes acceptance all the more precious and wonderful, when you do find it.
Give him the card - make it a nice, sweet one, letting him know that you like him - in a special way - a little more than you like any other guy. Then just stay back and see how he reacts. If you push it - then he may think you're desperate - but if you just give him the card and wait for HIM to make the next move, then you won't look weird or desperate.
If he reacts negatively, just shrug it off. It's not like you sent him flowers and candy or proposed on bended knee, after all.. it won't be fun - rejection always hurts - but it is part of life.
And then there's the other chance - the way these things usually work out - and he may like you, too. If *that's* the case - then you may be a very, VERY happy sixth grader on the day after Valentine's!!!
Attention: NOTHING on this site may be reproduced in any fashion whatsoever without explicit consent (in writing) of the owner of said material, unless otherwise stated on the page where the content originated. Search engines are free to index and cache our content. Users who post their account names or personal information in their questions have no expectation of privacy beyond that point for anything they disclose. Questions are otherwise considered anonymous to the general public.