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how do females masterbate
I'm a teenage female...I masterbate but I never actually reach an orgamsim how should I masterbate
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if you're still a virgin i would suggest that you don't put anything inside yourself just yet(unless you're already comfortable with doing so).
maybe try stacking up 2 or 3 pillows and just grinding yourself on them and keep doing that until it feel good then eventually you'll also achieve an orgasm
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Buy a dildo or have someone buy some for you. also you can have an older friend buy you a vibrator that you can insert and use that.
theres two different ways that females can reach orgasm. ones through the G spot inside your vagina and one is through the clitoris.
some girls need both at the same time and some can reach orgasm with one or the other.
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Hi there. Sounds like you know what to do (masterbating is basically handling and touching yourself intimatley for enjoyment) but not quite 'getting there'? It can be quite difficult to reach an orgasm. You really have to find a technique (which spot, what sort of speed and pressure, for how long etc) that works for YOU. Us guys always reach a climax when we masturbate as a rule, but ask most women and they might wll say they don't orgasm every time, or always even want to. You're not really 'failing' if you don't. But it is a very pleasurable sensation and I'm sure you want to 'cum' and see how it feels? So what might help? You're more likely to climax if you feel generally horny when you do it, rather than just picking a random time (maybe when you're not feeling that horny anyway?). It involves really letting go, so to speak. So it'll help if you know you won't be disturbed (the though of someone popping up when you're about to cum will put a brake on your mood). Being nice and comfortable and relaxed helps too. So an ideal time might be when you are alone at home, in bed? Pop the latch on your door if there are people aboutthe house? Your mind is in a way your biggest 'sex organ' and indulging in some sexy fantasy thoughts is a very big help. Anything that you like. Move star, celeb or a guy you know and really fancy...anyone. On a tropical island, a slick hotel...let your mind build up a proper fantasy scenario. It's YOUR fantasy! Technique is a tough one. The whole area is sensitive and different things work for different ladies. Strictly speaking your clitoris is the 'most' sensitive and most likely to get you there. It's mostly 'outside' as you might say, and at the top. Quite rapid little circular motions, pressing quite firmly with your fingertip will usually stimulate it well when you feel that your climax is coming. You're quite right when you say 'reach' and not 'have' an orgasm. It is something you reach. As you pleasure yourself and get more and more aroused it feels like a tension (good tension, like waiting for something nice to happen, not bad stressy tension!) builds up and the key is to build it up and up until it's all suddenly released. The muscles 'down there' sort of tense and release repeatedly in spasms and your mind gets overcome with really strong and enjoyable 'feel good' sensations. Job done...you've enjoyed an orgasm! Sometimes a girl might think she's 'failed' when all that really has happened is that she hasn't gone on long enough? So work at it. Maybe set a time limit of around 30 mins and if you haven't got there by then stop and try again another time. Otherwise you might make yourself a bit sore rather than sexy and also a bit of stress will come in if you feel like nothing much is happenning despite your best efforts. This won't help. When something really promising seems to about to happen, go with whatever you're doing and don't change it. Go with it and let go. Sometimes saying out loud "I'm coming" or something similar can really affirm and reinforce your intent at that time. Positive thinking mate. Just like saying you'll never get there will make you less likely to, but in reverse. Hope there might be a few things to think about in my reply. It's a case of a little bit of experimenting, some trial and error. It's a very powerful, pleasurable and life-affirming thing to enjoy an orgasm and you're quite right to want to. Don't get stressed if there seems to be a more error than results at first. I'm sure you'll get there pretty soon, and have lots of fun trying in the meantime. Best wishes for 2015. X
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