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Pleas help!
Hi! So im 13 and I'm always scared of parent teacher school conferences. When I went in another school, everytime I was there the teachers said really good things about me but after I moved there have been some changes. My first conference went really well, but the second was horrible. My mom expects me to be the best in the class and she always asks the teacher. The teachers hate me, and sometimes I answer them back and then they get mad. So last time I went there they sad my atitude is really bad and I laugh at teachers, which is something I don't. And my parents take the stuff I care about from me if I do something wrong, they take like my phone and even cloths. So Can Anynone pleas help?
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I used to correct teachers all the time in science class when I was at school. 'Cause they were often wrong about stuff.
One day, Mr Wheeler - well, he kinda reacted. I got the message. When you are busy trying to teach science to 25 kids, you don't want to be continuously blocked and corrected by one kid that knows it all.
Just learn to shut your mouth and keep your head down. Yeah, it sucks, but it's how the world works and you may as well learn it now rather than having to learn it later.
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You are describing teacher s and parents acting like middle schoolers in maturity. I highly doubt all of them are acting like that. My guess is that there is some miscommunication, you havent asked for clarification and are mainly assuming things like teachers hating you. Teachers won't last long in their job if they 'hate' students.
The only thing that gives me something to go on is when you said Mom expects you to be the best in the class. If that is so, that can create trouble for you , the weight of feeling you have to be perfect all the time. Could it be that instead your mom wants you to do your personal best which will differ from another students personal best. A good parent will want this for their child rather than expecting their child to always strive to be better than everyone else. But there is a chance some parents think they are doing the right thing in that but are very misguided and that frustrates not just you but the teacher who is always hearing from parents who want their kid to do better than all others. If this is what is actually going on, then I encourge you to go talk to a school counseler. Explain in a calm manner exactly what is going on because as I have explained, there is a great difference between the two, one way is constructive and the other destructive.
I do believe to some extent, most kids feel nervous wondering what the teacher is going to say to the parents about them. At your age, it is even more important to kids to fit in and be liked and highly thought of and so if a child needs improving in some areas, that can make them feel bad but it is a normal part of life. We all find times in life where we don't always get something the first time around and may have to review and practice or try harder, even grown ups.
I do not know what you are doing that is being labeled having a bad attitude so I can't really say what I see going on there. Laughing at inappropriate times at anyone, not just teachers, can be taken as disrespectful. You'd need to be more forth coming with information and give some detailed descriptions of what you are doing/saying, what the teacher is doing/saying and what other classmates are doing when you are accused of a bad attitude. So if you want to take the time to explain deeper in more detail, I'd be glad to try to help more. Just go to my column and write to me from there as I can't answer on the comment page.
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