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we were cool now thing are going down hil
Me and my best friends. Been friends since 9th grade she is the girl who actually said hi to me when i was too shy to talk to anyone. She "was" alway there for me when you know, if my clothes were too big or if my makeup didn't look right of if people were talking about me she would tell me and "had" my back and tell me , "well you need to change. How you do this... , since we hit the 11th grade things changed, sometimes when she look bored or mad or whatever i go to her ad she would not wanna. Talk to me or just nodded her head . But when i leave and give her space she just sit there and when someone else comes to her oh she laughing and jolly what soo ever. Also when ppl made rumors about me she didn't have my back. For example:
Her: i heard you were actin and dressing like a hoe is it true just let me know .
The first thing that is wrong with that question is that how rude can you be? First im a lady
Not a hoe i dont dress nor act like one.
She on the other had has tits like a steriod water
Melons and show her tits off then complain how guys are looking at her tits. And me on the other hand is quiet and dress nicely society think that nasty but with her society find it to be normal. Also when i used to go to the cafe she never paid attention to me so i go stay in a teacher class room only time we hang out is when she feel like dealing with me in the gym. I talked with my therapist and she said im giving her too much power im just so confused is she giving me a sign or what
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I don't really have a good answer for this question as I would need to know both of you to give you an answer that would make some sort of sense. What I think may have happened is someone said something to her that has caused her to feel differently about you.
This is a very big "if," for once again I would have to be among your classmates to know exactly if this is what has happened. If people are talking about you behind your back to her; it seems logical to me they may say something to her that would cause her to change her feelings about you. I've seen it happen and it has happened to me when I was your age. It is not right but childish children do this to prove they are superior to one another.
What to do about this. You can try talking to her about this. Go to her and say to her something like this. You have been my best friend, if I have done anything to hurt you I apologize for doing so. Please tell me what I have done or may have said that I am not aware of so I can apologize properly to you.
Now it is up to her to tell you whatever it is that has caused her to be this way. If it is something someone said you have said about her you must understand that whatever was said was something she believes you could say or a secret you may have told. It is not if you did it is if she believes you did based on what she was told. Perception is real and this is going to be hard to overcome. Ask her who told her these things and work from there. Remind her how much this person has tried to herm your relationship with her.
You also have to be prepared to accept the fact that at this time she might not be willing to repair the relationship. If so you have to be the bigger person here. You say to her; I know you're hurt and I am truly sorry for that. I never said anything behind your back that I would not say to your dace. I value your friendship and I miss being friends. I will always be here for you should you want to be friends again.
Understand one other thing. High school friends are just that, high school friend. In about a year and a half you will finish with high school and go off to college. The friends you have made during your primary school years will all but vanish as you all go your separate ways. Right now your friendships are based on the combined interest of school, home and the social lives that go with it. When you go off to college those interest are going to change also based in part on your course of study and the schools you chose to attend. When you are home the friends of your school years are not going to be as close as they once where because that common interest has changed.
In short what I am saying is don't be too upset if she does not want to befriends' again. For it is not that long until your friend and you will go off in different directions and the friendship will wane in the process.
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