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He's being distant
22/F my LD boyfriend has been acting different lately. We had a great thanksgiving together. But a week after he left he decided to go to his friends house (the friend that encouraged him to cheat on me the first time) and he knows I didn't want him to but he did it anyway. Ever since we argued things have just been getting worse. He doesn't seem like he cares to try anymore and says it's my fault. Last night got really bad he was calling me names and telling me to screw myself. He said that he just wanted to feel wanted (which is his way of saying I need to send him nude pics) I told him I'm not going to send him pics to try to fix us cause that's pathetic. Now he's just being rude. He doesn't call anymore and when he text he's short. He can't expect me to keep trying when he's treating me this way right? Literally my heart can't take it im trying not to give up but he's really giving me no choice I don't wanna be sad all the time.. What should I do?
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You don't have to do anything. You said he's not calling anyways. the way he's treating you, would you say that he's treating you like a Queen? Doesnt look like that to me. It is not the behavior of a man who loves a woman. If he does start calling and texting, all you need to do is not respond.
You're a smart girl, I can tell from what you wrote that you have pretty much figured out there's something wrong and very pathetic about him and his expectations of a relationship.
So continue to stick to your guns and not cave in and lower your standards just to get the attention from a man. It is true that women love, crave attention from men and this is what gets them in trouble because they wait for a guy to pay them attention and they fall for him whether it is good or bad attention. You can certainly do better than the bad attention he's giving you.
Hint: LDR's rarely work. A few odd ones do, but usually to two have known each other before being separated by school or wife from husband going into army or such. For the most part, the things that a relationship needs, including trust, are impossible to get from an online relationship. So our imagination fills in on the good things we imagine are there, like what a hug or kiss from him feels like. You cant' possibly know until face to face. I did online dating to find 2nd husband. Talked to lots of great guys on line but once I met initially for coffee, discovered there was no chemistry between us. The difference is like getting a kiss on the lips from your brother vs from your lover. And its caused by having or not having the same type of pheremones in common. This is something you cant change being your own body chemistry and certainly something that cant be determined on line. Yes you can fall in love on line only to find that there is no spark once you meet in person. So I learned to not use the internet long term to invest time with a guy on line because in the end it still might not work. You are much better off sticking with people you can meet face to face for a dating relationship.
Good luck dear.
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