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Easy my Anxiety
How do I get over the anxiety of thinking always thinking I'm going to get pregnant after I have sex? I'm not on the pill but he wears a condom every time. I'm twenty and I know it sounds silly but there's always that chance. I just want to know how I can get over this and actually enjoy it all.
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You have every right to be anxious as the condom used for birth control is only 85% effective when worn correctly. The condom used with another form of birth control such as the pill is almost 100% effective.
The condom is also very effective in preventing the transfer of the HIV/Aids virus as well as many of the STDS. This is why it is promoted as the only way to have safe sex.
There are other female birth control options other than a hysterectomy that are just as effective as the pill. You should discuss these option with your gynecologist to see which is right for you.
Sex between to consenting adults should not cause you anxiety. It should be as much pleasure for you as it is for your partner. I would say if you're having sex just to provide your partner with sexual pleasure you are not only missing out on the fun and intimacy it provides. You are having sex for all the wrong reasons.
The pill has several unpleasant side effect and I can understand your reluctance to go on the pill. There is also the IUD and several different types of implants that do not have the side effects of the Pill. The IUD has the least side effect and you do not have to have had a child to have one. My wife had an IUD before we had our first Child.
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It sounds like you are not confident in just using condoms. That is a reasonable concern. Condoms are not 100% effective. Only abstinence and surgery (like a hysterectomy) are 100% effective. However, combining the pill with condoms provides more protection. I recommend you consider this option. It may ease your mind to know that you are doubly protected. If the pill does not appeal to you, there are other options. Perhaps talk to your doctor about what you can do. In the meantime, talk to your boyfriend about your concern. Have a serious talk about what you would want to do if you do get pregnant. Having a plan you both agree on will also ease your mind.
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