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Family is falling apart and I'm only 15
My uncle is a pot head going through divorce and ruining my cousins lives. And on top of that, my brothers girlfriend is seven months pregnant. Honestly, my parents are sick of it and I don't know what to do any more. Please give advice. My family is falling apart as we pass each day. I'm only fifteen, and I don't need this right now. I can't even think straight.
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I can understand why your parents would be upset and concerned with what is happening with both your uncle and your brother. Use of illegal drugs such as pot is something you're all Uncle did on his own and if this is the cause of the break up of his marriage is not your fault and it is not something you or your parents really can do anything about.
If the break up of your uncles marriage and his use of pot is causing you great concern and you would like to know what to do about it to help yourself and him then I recommend the following. There is an organization called Al ateen. I believe the website addresses Alateen.org go to that website you'll find locations for meeting sites in your hometown where you can go and speak to others that have similar problems as yours. Through them you can find out a better way to work or handle the problems that you have with your uncle. You're not going to change your uncle or his pot habits what you will find out is how to better deal with him so as not to cause you such great concern or the harm that it is doing to you. There is also a website called Al-Anon you might recommend to your parents to go to this website it's Al-Anon.org where they will find meeting locations where they too can find better ways to deal with the problems caused by your uncle.
As for your brother or his girlfriend becoming pregnant, you're going to be an aunt very shortly. The best thing you can do is be prepared to help care for the baby and to take the stress off of being and unwed parent if this is the way things are going to be.
Just remember none of what's going on is not your doing or your parents doing it is just life. Sometimes in life things like this happen and the best you can do is to deal with what happens as it happens; to get upset to get angry is only harmful to yourself. This does not do you or your parents any good.
I know what I'm about to say is easier said than done but the best thing you can do for yourself and your parents is to go about your daily life as best you can. Be available to help be supportive but to stay out of the situations. What is uppermost for you to remember here is that in neither of these situations have you done anything wrong. As the saying goes the best thing you can do for yourself is to stay off the radar, in other words do what's asked of you. Try not to cause any new problems for your parents they have enough to worry about. Be helpful and just do whatever you need to do with as little bother to your parents as you can. I know this is not the answer you're looking for but it's the best advice I can give you.
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