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My boyfriend changed his mind about making our relationship public on facebook?
My boyfriend and I have been dating a few months and this is a social media questions I guess. We never put we were in a relationship which never bothered me I really didn't care he never uses his Facebook I use mine really just to post pictures for family that lives further away. Well last night we were sitting together and he wanted me to change mine to in a relationship I was fine with I changed it it obviously tagged him in when it asked who I was in a relationship with well there is this girl he friends with whom has feelings for him he doesn't have feeling for her but they have been friends for years she's friends with his mom that's how they meet well she does gets drunk all the time does pills etc just got released from the hospital because she tried to kill her self and says it's over him well less then 24 hours she said if he didn't remove it from Facebook she was gonna kill her self and I said does that mean u want me to take it down or post more he said don't post more which I'm not a horrible person I wouldn't of posted anything else to begin with and he said no about taking our relationship down 2 seconds later he said maybe I should take it down. Well I don't care about social media but he wanted to make it public about us being together and it felt good and then feels likes it ripped right back out. Not sure if their is a question here just really looking for advice I feel miserable I don't even want to talk to him because I feel I'm going to say something stupid about it
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As I understand, it's a pretty free country and your facebook acct is yours to do with as you please. You can't be deleteing, or selective posting just because someone won't like it. What if 3 wacko boys were all in love with you asking you to post that you love them and you can't post just one, the other two will be upset. It gets pretty stupid. Think about it, society has gotten so fragile. If we are offended by a movie, a slogan, a photo or whatever, we try to sue. She is a product of todays society. Make a big enough fuss and you can get whatever you want. Well, it doesnt work that way, especially not in relationships. He has no feelings for her. End of story. You don't have to feel guilty about it. And you don't have to hide the fact you two are dating, she should ask you to, neither should he
Don't feel pressured. thats a bunch of baloney. We really do pick and choose what we are gonna feel pressured into doing. If someone was pressuring you to jump off a bridge to your death, would you eventually cave in and do it?
Another thing you can do is the same that people who have their facebook acct hacked, close the old one and give the new name to only those you want to have it, so neither of you give this girl the new one. And dont use your own names for the acct. No Julie Brown or Tom Alberts, go for something you like but that she cant trace you by if she tries to find you by name. Something really different like Sunflower Lollipops, or Hikerbikerboy...you get the picture.
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Your boyfriend.
Your boyfriend needs to get a restraining order,or run for the hills.If he could do both that would be great.
Let's talk about this other girl.She is seriously desperate for attention,and people are her character will go to the extremes to get the person they are after attention.Why?
In your case,she wants his attention,not anyone else's.The reason for this,is because he's an off the market guy and she is having a hard time dealing with that.Going to the extreme of taking pills and being in the hospital calls for pyschiatric help.Im serious.This could proove costly,and even deadly if she does not get any attention.
Her actions are also very selfish,and has no thought of you or anything or anyone else.
I have dealt with people of her character personally and its very delicate to approach,because what they have going on,to the,seems justifible.It isnt.
Its very scary and dangerous.
Whats wrong,is that your boyfriend needs to be on your side.See,what he's doing,by telling YOU take your status down,is caving in to this other woman's need which should not be allowed.His actions show,that her feelings count more than yours,and this other woman,was counting on him feeling guilty,so he could cave in and give her what she wants
Tough luck! Leave it up!
He is with YOU! Not with her!!
Pull him aside,and maybe explain to him some of what Ive said,because he may not be fully aware of the whole picture.You both need to be an agreement of what must be done here.You can;t hang on a balance just because this woman has obviously emotional issues!
Be blessed!
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