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What should I do about potty training a girl who pees on the floor?
My older sister and her boyfriend have moved into my house so they can save move and get their own place. They have a little girl. She's 2 yr. and very troublesome. Lately, my bedroom started smelling like pee. I thought it was my 6 month dog who I have been trying to potty train with pee pads. I tied him outside in the mornings so he could use the bathroom but it still smells. I kept wondering when he's peeing since I have tied him all the time now. One morning I woke up to a watering sound. I look to find that it was my niece. She has been coming into my bedroom without a diaper and peeing on my carpet. I screamed for my sister. She yelled at me for overreacting while cleaning up the mess. It makes me think she knew about it the whole time. We had a talk, her and her boyfriend promised it won't be happening again. I started locking my door afterwards. A few days later, I was washing dishes. My sister was at work, only her boyfriend and my niece was home. My niece goes in front of my door, it was open since I just came out of it. I look over to her and there she goes. Peeing on my bedroom carpet again. I yelled for her dad to come here. I needed a witness to stop them from blaming it on my dog. He just started while I asked him where her diaper was. She was wearing a skirt. She was peeing for a long time. He let her finish before he decided to clean it up and put a new diaper on her. We check her all the time. We hurry up and put one on her after she takes it off. We out pants on her instead of skirts. We are trying to potty train her but nothing seems to work. I don't know what else to do.
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Girls are generally easier to potty train than boys from all moms I've talked to. I only had girls. they never removed their diaper or training pants, and they certainly never peed on the floor.
About 4 yrs ago, my daughter was having issues not being able to potty train her daughter,my grand daughter.
My daughter has severe depression and finding she couldn't handle raising her daughter so the moment she went to live with her daddy and his new wife, she was potty trained without any problem.
The big difference is that there was a plan, structure and consistency in sticking with it and that's all she needed. At first they set their clocks or cells to let off an alarm for the amount of time she could stay dry before needing to pee, and making the time even shorter, taking her often to sit on the potty, even if she didn't have to pee yet. If a child is getting enough fluids, they can easily pee even just a few drops every half hour. But that might put a cramp in their style as young parents.
Does the child also have a problem wetting the bed every night? If so, it may be a medical problem of weak bladder something a child can have until ages 16- to 18. They may want to talk to a Dr. as to what can be done if anything if so.
If she doesn't wet the bed at night and she is able to choose where she pees, then she is smart enough to be taught the only place she can pee and do so every time. Your sister and boyfriend may be too lazy and inept at parenting.
I know it's not your role to do so, but perhaps you may want to consider pitching in to help and make some suggestions. First, the child should no longer be in diapers but pullups instead. The problem once a diaper is off, you can't re-tape it and therefore she runs around bare bottom because mom or dad is not keeping tabs on her. A pull up is easier on the child and parents. Maybe more expensive. But if between your sis and boyfriend and you, all are taking turns to take her to the bathroom, have her pull down her pullups and sit for about 2,3 mins and maybe let water trickle slowly out of sink tap ( the water sound helps some kids pee) She will soon get the idea. But somebody needs to tell her it is bad manners to pee anywhere other than in a restroom/bathroom. Offer she a reward to strive for. I only suggest one reward, the reward of getting her own pretty big girl panties to wear.
Haha that's why it is so easy with girls, we always have interest in wearing pretty things, even at that age. You might even have the package of panties always bought so she can see them. And you make it a goal if she can pee in the toilet every day for 2 weeks without an accident, she gets to wear big girl panties. If she has an accident, she will have to wear the pullups again until she can go a few days without a problem and then she gets her panties back.
This takes a parent who is right on top of things. Your niece may have parents but she is not being parented/taught and that is a terrible thing. She can grow into quite an uncontrollable Hellion that no body wants anything to do with.
Try not to yell at the parents. It will put them on the defense and be less likely to cooperate. Even if they are just being lazy, the best thing is to say you understand how busy they both are and have their hands full but you've discovered some things on line that parents can do to help their child potty train. Every adult in the house, even the grandparents, need to agree to stick to the potty training plan. Asking the child if they need to go pee, early on doesnt help because they aren't conscious yet of what it feels like. So dont make that mistake. You just take them regular as clockwork even if she protests. It the repetition of sitting on the potty often that will give her opportunity to actually pee in the toilet on occasion instead of in the pullups. Congratulate her. Get excited in voice when she does it.
That reinforces the proper behavior.
There is negative reinforcement. A child who isn't getting enough attention from the adults will do things to get in trouble on purpose get to get any kind of attention, negative attention of yelling and screaming will do just as good for them but isn't the right way to teach and raise a child. I hope this helps dear.
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