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Hi... im 14 and i've had sex many times with my boyfriend of 4 years.. he wants to have a baby with me in a few weeks ... we''ve used condoms and he makes me feel amazing but i want to know if i say yes, will giving birth hurt? and havinng a growing human inside me for 9months hurt??
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I understand how you both feel, but now is absolutely not the right time to have a baby for so, so many reasons.
- Giving birth very young isn't healthy. It increases risk of injury or death to the mother.
- You wouldn't have money to raise the child. It's not even legal to work when you're 14 and I sincerely doubt your parents would want to support it. To be honest, they'd probably lock you in your basement for a decade if they knew you were asking this! Even for a totally normal pregnancy with no health problems, the hospital bills for giving birth alone would be, I'd say, $12,000 at least. Not to mention the cost of pre-natal exams, which are vital to the health of you and the baby, and not to mention the healthcare of the child for the rest of its life! Medical costs aside, go to a grocery store and look at the cost of diapers. It's more than you think, and I guarantee you would need more than you think. I've heard mothers state they spend $100 on diapers EACH MONTH.
- You would likely have to drop out of school, or be held back a grade, at the very least.
- YES, giving birth will hurt. It's commonly accepted as the single most painful thing a human can experience! The only competitor I have heard of is passing a kidney stone - but that is a brief experience, whereas giving birth goes on for HOURS, or even DAYS. The uterine contractions feel like terrible period cramps but many times worse, not to mention that is very common for a woman's vagina to actually rip during childbirth, to the point of needing stitches. Stitches. On your vagina. In fact, it's not uncommon for a doctor to simply cut a slit in the vaginal opening before it has a chance to tear, because that's easier to stitch.
- And yes, being pregnant will probably not be easy, either. Morning sickness is common, and contrary to its name, it doesn't happen only in the morning. Bad back pain is common. Ligament pain is common. Heartburn is common. Insomnia is common. Plus, a lot of women experience cramps throughout various stages of pregnancy!
This isn't to say that having a baby isn't worth the trouble. It is. But there's no reason to do all of that right now! You're only 14 - some women haven't even gotten their period at 14! Most women are fertile until they're about 40-45. You literally have decades ahead of you to have a baby and I guarantee that if you wait, you'll end up in a better situation to raise a child. If you chose to have a baby now, it would make your life very, very difficult. It would be much better to wait.
Inbox me if you want more info - I can find you things about hospital costs, etc.
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