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Annoying freind.
M/15
I have a freind who seems to be at the maturity level every one was at in 8th grade ,but we are in 10th. Usaly I can tolerate him but lately he's been driving over the edge. He pulls the card that his life sucks so much and that I screw him over every time I can't hangout. He trys to tell me what music to listen to even though we have diferent tastes. And he texts me non stop. If I don't answer he texts me 5 more times. Be specificaly targets me out of our freind circle. And lately its been to much for me to handel. He's been trying to separate me from my freinds abd this what put me over the edge: I have a sculpture in my room of a life sized women that i was given and he was strangeling it and do innopriate things to it. Then its head fell off. He's my freind but every day he gets more annoying. What would be the best course of action because I don't want to hurt his feelings but the only solution I can think of will. how would you deal with this situation if I were you?
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Looks like you'll have to have a talk with him. Pick one thing at a time to bring up with him like the non stop texting. Tell him there are some changes you need from him. Tell him that the amount of texts he sends you daily is just too overwhelming for you. In fact, there is no one else you know who texts that much. Its not normal to you to have someone contact you that often. If he is really a friend, he will want to do that for you.
I think the problem is he doesn't have a life of his own, maybe even has a tough time making friends. So with nothing to do, no activities to keep him busy, time weighs heavy on his hands and he has chosen to rely on you to give meaning and entertainment to his life. I wonder if his parents are aware of this?
Tell him also that it is okay to have differing tastes in things. You will respect his choice of music, and you will expect him to do the same with you instead of criticizing your choices and telling you what to listen to.
You are going to have to spell it all out for him.
If it doesn't change a thing and he continues as if you never asked him to cool it, then you might try talking to his parents and ask them if they are aware of this behavior in him and spell it out for them, telling them what you told us, because it just may be a more serious condition than him being immature... and his parents would want to be aware of this.
Especially if he is always going on about how life sucks, there is a possibility he may become depressed enough someday to try to take his life. His parents would need to be made aware so they can take action now before its too late.
Sorry, there's no easy way to do this and not hurt his feelings.
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