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i cheated on.my husband to feel sexy
I cheated on my husband cause i felt abanden lonely.not sexy but i met this guy and we use to talk.and made me felt wanted again but not.even a.week.later he asked to borrow money so i said k then.1 month later again and i said no. Then he tells me he had sex with his ex.and ask to borrow money again i told him no and he begged.me.to.so.i dont answer.his.calls no more is that all he.wanted to make me.feel loved and.wanted just to use me
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He preyed on your vulnerability and was only in it for sex and money. He knows you needed to feel loved so he acted as though he were providing that.
You're wise not to have anything else to do with him. He only wants to bleed you dry financially and use you. That's the truth unfortunately. He's pretty brazen with asking for money only after knowing someone 7 days.
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There are many couples who marry who do not have a strong enough sexual chemistry with. They may have chemistry as best friends. But you've surely had best friends in life before, and can even care deep enough to feel like love but there is no sexual desire or attraction towards them.
If there isn't a good match on the friendship side of a marriage, then a woman lacks the emotional connection. You may be needing just that or both the emotional connection with someone at a deep level and also the sexual one since you mentioned not feeling sexy and I assume not feeling desired.
Women may seek friendship with and meet secretly with a man for fulfilling the need to have someone pay attention, listening to them and also talking with, verbally complimenting, building you up, being supportive and encouraging in their conversation and there be no kissing or sexual contact of any sort.
Some women might find that with girlfriends but most want that from a man.
The man you found, if you did not have sex (you didn;t say) was liking looking for a woman who was 'needy enough' to be vulnerable to anything he said and he pursued you with the intent to get money. Or, if you both did have sex, he isn't totally happy in his marriage for some marriage and truly was seeking another woman, but then once he met you, decided to ask you to borrow money. You dont know him well enough to know what he's doing with that money and he may never pay it back. He could have a habit he's feeding, drugs, alcohol, gambling....
But regardless of what he did with you and why he did it, looking at the bigger picture, there is a need to take a closer look at whats going on in your marriage. Do you still love you, or do you wish to fall in love again and him with you and resolve whatever the issues are between you? This will take some talking to husband and letting him know how you feel abandoned and lonely, and dont feel sexy or desired anymore. People can get so distracted by their other responsibilities that eventually unintentionally they are no longer paying attention to their most important responsibility, their partner.
I would suggest talking about going to see a marriage counselor to learn to identify what some problems are and both agree to a plan to solve them. If it comes out that he had no desire and hasn't for a long time and is hanging out just for convenience sake, and he doesnt want to work on the marriage or doesnt believe there is anything wrong with it, then you are married to someone who is not right for you.
Either you decide to spend the next several decades staying with him expecting nothing more than what you already have, or you can decide to leave, get a divorce and end up free to pursue a man who truly cherishes you.
You won't know what you are facing here until you speak up. If you are too afraid to find out what your situation really is, then again, you will have to live with this til the day you die.
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