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Breakdown
I'm 23 years old now, turning 24 on December. I'm not allowed to stay with anyone else & yes I have a father but he never confronts her. Everyone is scared of her. Anyway, as we speak, she's getting ready to travel with my sister. She didn't even ask me if I wanted to go with her. She just expects me to stay home & take care of my baby siblings while they are gone. I'm really on the verge of a breakdown.
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I don't know how things are as far as young women finding employment and earning their own money where you live, of if young women can rent a place and find another female friend to be her room-mate and gain their own independance that way.
If the reason you haven't gone against mom's wishes so far is because she threatens to kick you out, no home, no food, to control you, then you will have to find some one else you can trust who will agree to offer you a place to stay while you make your break away from under mom's domineering thumb. Once you have an emergency plan of place to go if the worst happens, you go find work, and as soon as hired, you tell mom she can no longer count on you to be home all day to run the house and watch siblings, that you have a job and will do your share of chores when home from work. If she can't handle that and kicks you out, then you go to stay with your prearranged backup, whether a friend or other family member. Save up for the cost of getting into an apartment/flat, and make some friends. If no friend is looking for a room mate, advertise, especially near colleges for a roommate and once you have one, go for it, move into a place of your own. I hope all goes well for you.
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