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If I dont socialize alot because of anxiety is that horrible?
Well basically I'm used to being in a home with two other people. (My mom and brother) And my husband has a huge family and I keep to myself a lot. And its brought to my intention several times daily by him and his family. And they( since we have no transportation and we give them gas money every time we leave for Dr. And food) said if I don't get out more they won't take me. It hurt my feelings because I love his family. And it feels like he has got them to gang on me. I mean how do they know when I leave and don't when their miles away? I get it its not good to isolate me but with my depression,digestive issues, asthma, etc. It looks like I'm constantly making excuses. Which I really don't. I eat like twice a day a and drink tons of water because my stomach hurts so bad like my stomach is going to explode from pressure.( Not being gross but i don't "GO" for 8 to 10 days.) And when I do I take laxatives and its a all day and night thing. Plus I can't eat dairy spicy foods greasy or acidic. Because of my gall bladder. And yesterday my husband yells "Do something with your lazy ass!" And it upset me. Any advice for me or even tips to help motivate me and push past all the pain to do it? I NEED IT!!!!!!
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can you simply start going for short walks?? maybe start with just around the block at first and then go further from there?? i can tell you now that staying kooped up inside the house all day isnt good for you either. Your breathing in stale air, dust, pet dander, and whatever else is in your house. get out and get some fresh air for a little while everyday if you can.
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If what the regular Medical doctors have prescribed isn't helping you with your medical issues, I would seriously look into some Natural help methods without of course stopping to take any prescriptions you may be taking. That would not be a smart move and can make you feel worse, but I am talking of simple things you can do that may just help your body start being a bit more healthy. A lot can be changed for the better by diet.
I have read that our bodys can become over loaded with toxins in which case our bodies begin to develop allergies to many things that we wouldn't under total full health circumstances. Things like having problem with dairy or even hayfever can have dairy as a culprit. Too much fat, sugar and salt in our diets can do so also.
I am going after the "Lets get your health stabilized" angle which I feel is important to have under control Before you can even feel comfortable leaving home.
I am no Doctor but depending on exactly where your pains are coming from, it may be stomach, or gall bladder or both. Have you been checked out for gall stones? I had them. Found a way to naturally get rid of them, an old country doctor way to soften them so they can be expelled through that small duct that usually causes pain if there is trouble with them passing. It worked for years until the stress in a bad marriage somehow affected my bodys ability to respond the final time I tried the natural method and got a big stone stuck, went to emergency and had gall bladder removed.
As for stomach pains, have you been checked out for stomach ulcers, I had that once. It's painful but the doctor prescribed medicine got rid of it. I have come across people whose bodies are more prone to one type of medical malady than others. Some are more prone to get and produce lots of gall stones. Some have a tendency to producing to much of the bad flora in the stomach, the kind of natural acids in there that should be breaking up and dissolving the food is not able to because there isn't a balance of the good, not much bad flora killing off the needed good ones. About March this year, I began to have some pains in my upper stomach. It didn't feel like ulcers, it was something new. The thought came to mind that I needed to eat lots of yogurt, you know those ads on TV about probiotics being good for you and how this one particular yogurt brand is a good thing for womens health as you get older? I want you to read for yourself what Kefir can do for you. Here is a link about the differences between yogurts and Kefir.
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the probiotics work on bringing balance again where there is an overabundance of yeast and bad bacteria in the stomach.
As for my yogurt binge, I found that it took care of the pain, it went away but everything was still out of balance in my stomach. It wasn't until a month ago when hubby and I began to visit international grocery stores where we found Kefir yogurt drinks,(Mexican and Russian groceries) Kefir,with the most live probiotics ever. I had some every day and now am taking a little break because the Kefir yogurt was working on getting rid of stuff in my stomach and intestines that was out of balance. It's gross as a subject but the symptoms as I took it were the same as having too much caffeine for me, I got the runs but I also got a tremendous amount of gas too, this is the process of toxins being flushed from my body. It didn't matter what I ate, if I had some Kefir, it fought to change the balance in me, killing the yeast and bad bacteria. My husband has had the same problem before. Both of us are finding we are having less problems already with bowel movements. It's not an allergy to dairy because we are eating other dairy products like cheese and milk and having no reaction like with Kefir, it's a process of getting some balance back in your health. You might try checking out a Naturopathic doctor and get him up to date as to what medications your other doctor has you taking and what other things have been tried. Natural health because of it's very nature is in most cases not going to interfere or cause bad reactions and side effects due to medications you currently take. I can't stress this enough for you to take a personal interest in your own health, researching for your self what other options there are. Medical doctors have great knowledge but are limited in that they are trained only in pharmacuetical cures and surgery cures. I am grateful for their knowledge when it comes to the surgical stuff, naturopathic can't help there. But they have no training in alternative health means of bringing the whole body back into balance.
Natural health doctors are trained in the same medical knowledge, classes, courses that regular doctors have to pass and then on top of that continue on for training on natural health too. And they take into consideration not just what ails you physically, but your mental, emotional health because that can have an effect on your physical health as well.
I will say that your husband doesnt sound supportive and his family doesnt either. That in itself is going to make your fight for regaining health hard and may be contributing to where you are at. If I had that daily onslaught, I would be suffering mentally too and likely depressed as you. I can relate in some ways. I married at 20 and the man turned out to be verbally abusive. It took its toll on me physically--stress has to go somewhere and it Will affect ones health. I was able to stay emotionally healthy tho due to my strong Christian faith and got my encouragements, support, and building up, from God when it was lacking from husband. I would venture to guess that it could be their frustration over you being so sick all the time, being naive to not understanding total health fully and not realizing that being critical with you is not going to help but actually make things worse. Ask for their understanding and let them know you want to get better but without understanding and stopping the verbal onslaught, you are being stressed and stress adds to your physical problems, doesnt improve them.
Part of taking your health into your own hands is going to require some drastic measures. If hubby and his family won't lay off with their pestering and start to help you look for other ways to regain your health, nothing will improve for you.
If your Mom and brother are more supportive and you are ready to try anything to get your body back into balance, then you may have to rely on Mom or brother or an Aunt or cousin to go stay with for a while where you can have peace, see what health care you can get and if it covers Naturopathic doctors too. If not, you are going to have to be working, earning your own money to be able to afford taking a bus, calling the small international groceries in your area and purchasing Kefir. Start eating more foods that provide roughage, eat more fresh foods, that would be fruit and vegetables in their raw form. Begin taking vitamin and mineral supplements and see if you start feeling better.
You will need to use laxatives for a while, while trying to get your body back to working well on its own. But once you begin to see some results for the better, please don't rely on laxatives and anti diarrhea medicines because they can mess our bodies up even worse if taken all the time so our bodies forget how to do these natural functions on their own. I learned about that after reading many books on menopause and getting older from the Natural perspective. Bowel issues are one of the symptoms that come with Menopause that is very seldom mentioned and other methods were given to offset the symptoms of lack of bowel movement or the runs and going back and forth between them. I know you aren't that age, but if those medications used long term arent good for older people, then its also not good for younger ones.
I truly want to be encouragement and more help to you. This answer is long enough. If you feel the need to talk to me more, please contact me again. I can also give you some advise about things you can do to try to relieve the stress you currently carry which causes the depressions and what will help with your depression if it's mainly caused by your medical conditions and the negative interactions with husband and his family. Good Luck dear and may your angels keep watch over you.
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