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I have a few questions about life.
1. I have a problem with trying to find the perfect guy and every time I find a guy, I seem to find a terrible thing about him and then I don't want him anymore. Does anyone have any advice on just letting the perfect guy come to me and just stop trying?
2. How can I feel better about myself?
3. I'm really slow at school. Like I can't answer questions out loud. Like I can't seem to think of them. How can I get better with this?
4. And how can I get the motivation to earn my drivers license, to do chores, to find a job, just to be a better person?
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You might get better response if you split up your questions. It's a lot to answer all in one shot and much can get lost in her. I will give some short responses for each but if you want more detail on each, write separate advice requests.
1. how the get the perfect guy the first time? If someone had that magic trick, they'd be a multi billionaire by now. We change alot from our teens to our 20's at which age, lots of people marry. So the issues you have with a guy now which are due to immaturity and lack of experience in dating and relationships are not going to be the issues later. Best thing is to go through each relationship looking for what you like in the guys character and also the negative things. Learn what the warning signs or clues are for that. As you get better at spotting the character traits you don't like, you won't even have to go as far as dating the guy to find it, you'll see it as you observe him on the school grounds.
2. How to feel better about yourself? First, don't compare yourself to others in looks or talents or whatever. God made each of us uniquely and different. We actually make ourselves feel bad by having thoughts ourselves that we don't match up or are not good enough or we listen to someone elses comment or opinion and choose to believe the negative thing they say about us. There is only power in their words to depress you if you choose to believe there may be any truth to what they say. There is no such thing as all teenagers on the planet having matured enough so their words were always the truth, had good ideas, were intelligent and thoughtful, kind and supportive.
3. Slow? Not sure what is meant, like your brain takes a long time to wake up? If so, do you eat breakfast? Are you dabbling with energy drinks? The exclusive Montessori school my 2nd husband put his daughter in had parents sign a contract that kids would not sugar. Sugar has adverse affects on kids learning abilities, one of which is hyperactive, can't concentrate. Lots of kids labeled ADHD wouldn't need meds and get great grades with ease if they had a sugarless diet.
4. Driver license. Are the parents urging you to do so? If not, and you don't want to do it yet, there;s no need to hurry. All my girls waiting until turning 20 or so. Insurance is also cheaper by then because you're an adult and more mature.
If you are afraid of the written or driving test and that is what holds you back, practice more on both until you feel confident. It's okay if you fail the tests. Some people have to take them many times to finally pass. My oldest daughter took her driving test 3 or 4 times before she passed. If the reason you fail a test is you get too nervous or scared and that overrides what you do know so you mess up, then wait til you'r older, let 6 months go by, maybe a year and then try.
If there are chores that are your responsility whether you get paid for them or not, look at it this way, if your parents can Rely on you, it's done Efficiently, Quickly, with good Attitude, etc... those are things an employer looks for too in hiring someone. Start with the small stuff now like chores at home. If there's an elderly neighbor who could use a little help with something, volunteer to do some special tasks for them. When applying for a first job, of course you won't have previous work experience but character references go a long way to speaking highly of you as a good prospect for the position. If friends and neighbors (adults) have something good to say about you that will help alot in landing a job.
Good luck.
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