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Is he mature enough?
I'm 14 years old and there's a guy that I like and I want more than a friendship (obviously nothing extremely serious because I'm so young) but I don't know how. We laugh and joke a lot but we don't really have conversations beyond sarcastic comments and teasing each other. I think that's partly my fault because I have social anxiety and I've built walls to keep people out (metaphorical walls of course) and he sort of has those walls too. His brother recently got into a horrible car accident and he's a little depressed so maybe you have some ways to cheer him up? We still have that touch barrier between us and I'm too awkward to break it, so that's a slight problem. But he's a little immature and that's my main concern. He's not very tall, no deep voice, extremely skinny (though being skinny is probably because he's a runner), so does not really hitting puberty yet affect his maturity? I feel like he's more mentally mature than half the guys at the school so does his body really matter. How can I get him interested in me? Thanks in advance!!!!
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I wouldn't say that a person has to have a certain level of maturity to be a friend. Kids of all age's have their childhood friends. Teens will have challenge making good solid decisions until reaching mid 20s onward because of the front part of brain not done growing yet. But those challenges shouldn't prevent them from having friendships and relationships.
In your case, i'd say its more of the awkward feelings that come from being timid and the inexperience that can be the only things to hold you back.
You want more than friendship, like the romance part. Okay, but what you described doesnt sound like a friendship yet. You may act friendly towards each other when seeing each other but you need to have some real conversation flowing back and forth and be spending time hanging out getting to know each other better. Do you not have a single girl friend that you hang out with away from school, you talk about all sorts of things together and you share your secret thoughts and feelings with her? If not, you're missing out on a lot and need to learn how to have a real relationship. If you do have that with a girl, you don't want a friendship with a guy to be anything less. It is smart to have a friendship with a guy before moving on to romantic stuff.
If going straight for the romance or as some teens do, just for the sex, what is happening is two people are acting on surface level attractions in the other person, how they look, how they smile or laugh. Nothing much more than that. Its important yes but people who go for that first usually are not wanting to learn anything more about the people and become good friends. So friends first. Hope this helps.
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