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My hair makes me look younger.. Help?
I'm 14 and I recently had to cut my hair because it was too long. I cut off probably 5-7 inches. It's now a mid-shoulder length or something. Well my friend said I look like a "cute ten year old", now I'm self concious of going anywhere. I straighten my hair to make it look longer too, but I don't want to look like a child..
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Your friend could be joking or at worse just doesn't feel your haircut suits you. However, that's her opinion and as others have stated not that of anyone else. Maybe there is jealousy there too that you look better than her.
Here's what I would do find an adult other than a family member you value an opinion from. Pick a teacher for instance. Tell them you're feeling bad because someone insulted you about your hair and said you looked like a 10-year-old.
Ask them to be brutally honest about what they think. You'll find you don't have much to say negative about it and or can offer you suggestions to look your age if need be.
If that idea doesn't work for you go an visit a different hair salon and tell them your friend insulted you about the hair cut and told you that you looked way younger than your actual age. See if they think there is anything that needs fixing and if so perhaps they can make it look the way you really want.
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Just because that is how your friend perceives your new cut, does not mean others will see it the same way.
How did you feel about your haircut when you looked in the mirror right after? I'll bet you didn't think you thought you looked like a child. What were your thoughts...go back...remember.
The thing to have said at the time was, "Well, that may be how it looks to you.That's your opinion, my opinion is that it makes me look more sassy and exciting as a person. I like it.
The only time that another person's comment can affect you is if you choose to believe and own it.
If your subconscious mind then constantly struggles with feeling like a child, it will begin to affect other people, like a self fulfilling prophecy. And the sad thing is, it would never have affected other peoples opinion of you if you hadn't chosen to believe that what she said is the gospel truth...no! Its just an opinion. If I told you that the shape of your body makes you look ugly, would you believe it?
Heck, opinions and personal taste changes with the years. What is touted as the beautiful woman today by media is not what it was in the past. The models and pinups of the past, even models for paintings way back, are all so very different. Nothing in common. Fads come and go and are started by the opinions and tastes of the few and media makes it between a wide spread belief. Am I gonna believe that because I dont look like Julia Roberts, that I am not a pretty woman? I have my own unique traits and will not appeal to everyone but even in my 50's I am a pretty woman and still turn guys heads. What you think of yourself is going to take you lots farther than what one person or a handful think dear.
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