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What Should I Do?
I've known my best friend for nearly a year. We recently took a 3 week break due to arguments.
Well, we started talking again and... I feel like I may be better off without her. I'm homeschooled so she's my only friend (Literally my ONLY friend). But she's just kind of mean. She thinks it's funny to insult people and she gets into a lot of fights and stuff. She's always been there for me, but would I be better off without her in my life? I would have no friends though.. I have social anxiety, so it's difficult to socialize.
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I think you should tell her how you feel, whether this friendship makes u feel good about yourself or not (avoid using the word you and try replacing it with we to prevent an fight). Put yourself out there and join sport teams or toto the library or volunteer, do something that interests you to meet other people and that is how you make friends. Just walk in with a smile and a positive attitude. Drop the ones who treat you like your ordinary
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Perhaps she has some kind of learning or other problem where empathy for others isn't apparent or where she can't see that insulting others for amusement isn't right.
You should tell her that one of the reasons you fight is that she does this perhaps without thinking and can be mean sometimes without even trying. It may be doing her a HUGE favor to learn this as no doubt she's pissed a lot of people off before without seeing it.
You have to figure out whether it's your gut instinct kicking in that she's not worth it or just something that you thought about because she hurt you and will fade. If it won't fade than maybe you are right and that's okay.
The whole issue about friends is a tough one. If you talk to a doctor about your anxiety disorder mention this unhealthy friendship and not wanting to ditch someone for fear of being alone. They may have tips and be able to introduce you to youth dealing with the same problem who could be friends.
Also, you never mentioned why you home-school. At this point in your life perhaps entering a regular school would be good for you and lead to friends especially if teachers know what you struggle with and students as well. The potential to meet good people there is great. You would have to work hard with a doctor on dealing with anxiety though. Something to talk to your family about--all of this about the friend.
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