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What can I do? :(
So over a month ago, me and my best friend has a pointless argument. We both said some pretty hurtful words. She said she would never talk to me again. I thought she didn't mean it because she always eventually talked to me but.. I haven't heard of her since the end of July.
I miss her so much. I don't go to her school, she changed her number, I don't know her address.. I just miss her so much and there's literally nothing I can do. What should I do? What CAN I do?
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Does she use e-mail or social media? That may be your best bet or going through a mutual friend if there is one to get a card or note delivered to her. Do any of her family go to school with you or have a connection?
The problem is you need to understand that whatever you were arguing over wasn't trivial to her and that there was something big in her perception at least to warrant never talking to you again.
Explain in your note that you understand that now and that a lot of time and changes have happened with you both. Tell her that you would like to discuss things with her again in hope that your friendship will one day be restored and that you miss her.
After that it's really up to her to come around. I would have to tell you that if she doesn't after you being friends for years from the sounds of your question that the issue is with her not you. If she throws it away even with an apology and olive branch extended than the friendship really wasn't stable to begin with. Ultimately, after apologizing it's on her to make a choice to hear you out or not. I wouldn't worry if you tried everything. I don't know the crux of the argument you had but most people assess things and work them out. It looks like she's incredibly sensitive if it was just a run of the mill fight most people have.
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I am sorry to hear this. There is nothing you can do but try making contact every once in a while, the old way, sending cards in the mail, for birthday, Halloween, Christmas, whatever occassion. Let her know you are always open to having her back as a friend. No discussing of what happened before, no apologies or blaming, just know you'll always be my friend in my heart whether you reciprocate or not.
My first guess would have been that her severe anger is due to the overload of hormones when puberty hits but I imagine she must be your age. SO this could be due to the immaturity that comes with this age. Not trying to single her out from others as being immature...all teens have this issue, we do until we get past age 25 when the frontal lobe of our brain finishes growing. Before then, we make a lot of poor judgements and decisions because of it.
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