This would be a bit long, but I need serious advice...I work in a good company with a guy I met I knew back in school, we hit it off real quick bcos we were attracted to each other, until he told me he had a girlfriend, but that the relationship was on the edge, she lives in a different state, and he said they have communication issues if he doesn't call, she doesn't call. He never told me if he was seriously committed to her. we went out on our first date and it was good and ended up kissing. After two days I thought about it and told him how I felt about him having a relationship and what he was doing with me, I told him that I don't want a situation where I want more and it doesn't work out... we talked about it and then we went on a second date, after the date we ended up making out we didn't have sex, when we finished he called his girlfriend and said "hush! I want to talk to the boo".. I felt so disrespected I was mad I wondered why he would do that right in front of me, so we ended up arguing and not talking to each other for weeks. After that we began talking again this time I stated that I cant hang out with him or do any shitty thing with him and I deserve better and I needed to move on. he would always bug me always wanting us to hang out. we fight every week especially on Fridays, its either he says something disrespectful, and when I react he gets angry and it becomes a quarrel we wont talk throughout the weekend till Monday when he comes to apologise.. This time around I had taken enough he was about leaving, and he begged me to walk him to his car I reluctantly agreed, while we were at the car we started talking normally and he kept bringing up the hanging out thing. I told him I didn't want to go out with him that I needed to move on, and that he has a girlfriend and nothing can come out of what ever we do, then he said well its true and that nothing can separate he and his girlfriend then he asked for my phone and he said that he wants to check my contacts to see if there were other men I could date.. I just took my phone and walked out.. then he sent me a message telling e how rude I was, I told him that he knows I have feelings and he capitalises on it so much on it and talks to me anyhow. I told him that I needed him to stay clear away from me. then he replied saying I should free him, I should never say hi to him or else he would embarrass me, he also said that if he ever comes back to beg me that he is not a man he said I had issues and he was tired of dealing with it. I replied "okay and thank you" its been 2weeks and we haven't talked, I bump into him almost everyday, in the kitchen when i'm there he talks about his girlfriend and how he loves her so much, how she is the only one he spends his money on. everytime i'm there it hurts me so much because I felt so cheap and so easy to get, I should never have hung out with him I wish I knew he had a girlfriend before we did. I should never have kissed or made out with him... what do I do I keep seeing him everyday and the pain worsens please I need an advice
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships? Katlyn answered Thursday September 4 2014, 4:56 pm: Well clearly he isnt mature so be glad that you didnt end up that lol. Honestly you just need to move on from this. Everyone makes mistakes and you made one too but dont let this affect you. When you see him and he says things just ignore him, think of all the horrible things he's done and how hes not worth being upset over. A guy like that does not deserve you because you deserve so much better. Try going on dates or hanging out with more people. Try and just avoid him at work if possible and just talk to whoever else is around, that way he knows that he doesnt affect you and eventually you'll get over this and no matter happens do not let him back into your life. :) [ Katlyn's advice column | Ask Katlyn A Question ]
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