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i really need advice
I've been married to my husband for almost 2 years now. When he proposed to me i left everything and stopped everything to be with him. I moved to upstate ny and after 3 months of being married he had to deploy. When he came home 9 months later things were still good then around jan of this year he was diagnosed with bi polar schizo effective. My life changed 369 on me and i just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like i do everything from cleaning, cooking, paying bills, running errands, taking care of him, making sure i don't act a certain way around him or it triggers his anxiety/manic stage and badically i just feel so neglected. I don't get any type of emotion from,his moods are always changing and its just so hard not getting any support or care out at least done type if emotion from him. Now today he says out of no where he feels to tied down. But when his therapist rasa to me she says he tells her that I'm his rock and I'm the only one that cares for him. I just don't know what to do our how to deal with these rollar coaster emotions. So please any advice would help.
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Being with someone with mental illness can be very challenging. There will be good days and bad days. I wish I could tell you that if you hold out for it, things will get better, but I don't know enough to be able to tell you that.
What I can tell you, though, is that it will get easier to deal with, both for him and for you. In my own experience, mental illness becomes more difficult to deal with after diagnosis, but over time you learn to recognize what is happening and how to best manage it. For me it took more than a year, and I only have social anxiety. For your husband, it may be much longer.
It's good to hear that he's in therapy. If he's not on any medication, I would recommend trying it out. A combination of medication and counseling is generally he best treatment for schizoaffective.
If you have the resources, you may want to consider visiting a therapist as well. It may help you. If you can't, see if there are any support groups in your area or online that you could join. You are going through a difficult time as well, and if you can't get support from your husband, there are other places you can look. Best of luck!
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