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Being happy about commuting.
Hello, I am 19, female and a junior in college. At the end of my sophomore year, my best friend and roommate of two years, decided that she wanted to go for a higher housing position and be an SSC which means she would be the leader of a dorm building for freshman students. She got the position and that meant she had her own room, plus I have a job at home that I like. So, I decided since she was going to be on her own that I would commute and work more hours at home while saving money from the costs it takes to live at college and the meal plan. Now, I've been working at this job for a year and everything is changing, I am getting so sick of the job and my best friend could no longer hold her position as an SSC because her gpa did not meet the requirements.
So, I am still commuting and seeing everyone's pictures on instagram and tweets of them moving in and going back to school is making me so upset that I'm commuting. I miss living there so much. My best friend and I worked for housing our sophomore year so through that job, we met a lot of new people and we loved it but now that it's a new year, all the friends we made are off in different buildings. So, my best friend said that I could stay with her whenever I wanted and all of my other friends said I had a place to stay with them as well whenever I wanted to stay the night. But I still don't think it's the same. When I lived on campus, my friends and I would stay up all hours of the night watching movies and going off to parties and making memories we will never forget. But now when I get to spend the night in whatever friend's place I choose, I will always feel like just a visitor.
How do I get over this? I know I cannot change my decision to commute as it is already done and over with so how do I make myself be more happy about the decision that I chose to commute and how do I get out of this slump and still make this year one of the best?
Thanks.
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I've been commuting for five years now. An hour and half each way. So, three hours total per day. Four years in university and now for work. It took me some time to be okay with commuting so much. At first, I HATED it. I was only doing it because I couldn't afford $15,000 in loans to stay in a dorm each year. Not to mention food plans etc etc. Too much money. Anyway, now that I'm all graduated, I am so relieved that I commuted. Yes, I missed the "experience," but honestly, it doesn't matter. You're going to make friends who will make the effort to see you and now just hang out because you're there. You might put in more effort commuting, but you'll be commuting for people you care to be with and that's nice.
You might not realize it now, but after you graduate and you've saved up money from your job and have a loan loan than others, you will thank yourself. I mean I have a friend with $40,000+ in loans. He has to pay $800 a month paying them off. Meanwhile, I'm paying a manageable $150 each month. Which would you prefer?
As for, being sad to not hang out with people, its understandable. Just do your best. Try to find places that are easy for both parties to get to. If you feel like you're not hanging out with friends as much as you'd like, plan the event! I always end up planning most of the get together between my friends because I always travel the furthest. The added bonus is that you'll be doing whatever you like haha.
Make the best of your situation. It's a skill handy in life and you can take the chance to master it. You can make great memories even if you're not sleeping on campus. The memories you make will be more special because you'll work to make them.
Good luck :)
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