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I want to dye my hair.
I'm a 14 year old girl and I want to dye my hair. In order to do this I would have to first bleach my hair (my hair is so dark that it's almost black so I have to bleach it for the due to show up) and then I'd dye it purple or blue. The problem is convincing my parents. They wouldn't even let me dye the ends with kool aid dye last year when I asked, and that would've only lasted a week, but now I want to dye it all. I'd still be willing to compromise and do it with kool aid and just renew the dye every week until the bleach wore out (is still have to bleach it no matter what method of dying I use). I don't know if they're worried about me looking stupid or damaging my hair or what but I guess I can sort of see where they're coming from with not wanting a daughter with weird hair.... But I still want this, so how do I ask so they'll say yes? It's not going to last for ever, probably just the rest of this year (4 months).
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Yeah the other poster has a good idea here. try getting another cool adult you know that your parents trust to talk with them.
tell them you "just wanna try something different" and that "hair grows back, its not forever" and if it ends up coming out bad that you can just buy some black hair dye to cover it up and no one will ever have to know.
Also, it might be a good idea to ask "well if i had a hair stylist do it, someone that knew what they were doing, would that work?" and see what they say.
there are also other ways to dye your hair without bleach that are semi-perm.
Theres this thing called "highlights for dark hair" it usually comes in a bright red which is a pretty cool color. You can buy a cream developer thats HIGHER then what it says on the box, and mix that together. then put it on your hair the way you want, and it will replace the pigment in your hair with that color and if you leave it on longer it will come out brighter!
((i did my hair this way for several years and had the most amazing bright red hair that take a WHILE to dull)) that doesnt require bleach either. I know alot of people are scared of bleach and if you dont know how to use it properly you shouldnt play with it at all.
(((i went to cosmetology school BTW and learned how to do it there))) ; ) good luck!
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Stripping the hair totally of color is a harsh process followed by another harsh process of re coloring. So yes, they may be concerned for the health of your hair. I once burnt my hair by doing all this stuff myself and I Panicked when I could not comb or brush my hair afterwards without chunks breaking off. I never colored again after that. So perhaps if this is the main issue with them when you talk, you might consider seeing if they feel differently if a licensed hair professional was doing it so that this doesn't happen. If they have an issue with the 'unnatural' hair coloring, there is no magic thing to say to a parent because until you are 18 and considered an adult, their decisions regarding your welfare and any decisions in raising you and boundaries are within their rights.
If it didn't go well for koolaid dye to tips, then it may not go well for this either but it doesnt hurt to ask. I see nothing wrong with it cus its not permanant like some other stuff people do to their bodies. One of my daughters had my help dying her tips when she was your age. After a year, she tired of it and we just cut it off. Asking for doing the whole head rather than just tips is a big step for them if they couldn't handle tips a year ago. About the only thing I can think of is talking to aunts or grandma's or adult sisters/female cousins who are adult to see if they will side with you as far as it not being permanent and nothing to worry about and approaching our parents to talk to them on your behalf. Sometimes, it is easier as a parent to hear all the facts and given things to think about from another adult, that they might not have considered if their child approached them with it. Good luck. If its still no, you can do the coloring when you turn 18.
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