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Does he like me?
Okay well I'm 15 and he's 17. My whole family knows him well bc he is my cousin's best friend! Anyway, I feel like he doesn't make an attempt to talk to me that much bc he lives an hour away but when he does, he flirts, or tries to show off. (In a cutesy stupid kinda way!)Like recently, my friends and I were walking and his friends and he were walking, no one said anything but he hit my shoulder and when I looked he said "Tag, you're it!" And winked and walked away! I like him tho! Dx I'm really confused! Thanks!!
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One of the things a guy does to show he is attracted to a girl is to talk to her, smile at her, flirt, but even more so, find an excuse to be near her or to touch her in some natural way. This is all body language we give off subconsciously when we are attracted...girls do the same.
As to whether he actually likes you enough to consider a girlfriend, usually teens say that someone 'likes' them when the other has not had opportunity to hang out with you enough to learn enough about you to determine if they are still interested beyond surface level things and that is why sometimes if it is difficult for some reason for a guy to spend time getting to know a girl he is attracted to, he just stays in the flirting mode because that is a safe place to be for now and also a very pleasant place to be too.
I cant know what u feel is a normal amount of talking to another person via phone, text or email, snapchat or a multitude of other places but what you may feel is not enough contact for a guy with possible interest may be totally off from the actual situation.l
One things I've noticed from all the teen girls who write is that guys do best in face to face convo's, do somewhat okay in phone calls and least good at texting or any other written forms of contact. Why? There are good reasons. Many guys don't like typing at all. Even if they do, texting leaves them too open to being distracted by other priorities in their life. Guys have many priorties in their life and will juggle the top few, 3 or 4 equally, such as family, school, buddies and a girlfriend interest. So depending on whats going on when you text him, he will tend to be more taken up with whatever is in front of him, mom or dad requiring his assistance or school work he's working on or hanging with his buddies...so return texts can be few, irregular response, short, or non at all. It doesnt mean he's not interested in the girl.
Phone calls work better. Lots of guys do well with calls because now they have the added benefit of the girls tone of voice to figure out what she is saying or how she is feeling if the guy has trouble understanding and figuring out girls. A boy with lots of sisters who are teens will have it pretty much figured out but a guy who didnt pay attention studying and learning about females through his sister or lacked female siblings, will not have a clue and need the extra in put of your tone of voice and lastly body language which they can only get from face to face with you. And thats why most guys prefer face to face convo's. The hour distance is not a big thing really, especially once a couple is older, out of school and owns a car and drives. But when a teen, maybe still depending on parents for transportation or bus if its available, then in reality it leaves only the weekends once homework and chores are done to have free time to hang out with someone you are attracted to.
So my advice is to nurture the keeping in contact with him for now, see if you can become close friends on line,in calls or text, share enough about each other to see if you even have any things in common. Ask him things about his likes or dislikes. And see if he asks you in return. If he does not, then he may not be as interested in you as you may think. A guy truly interested will want to learn things about the girl...otherwise all he was attracted to was strictly her looks and how it turned him on sexually. You want the best friend in a guy first and the romantic attraction as well but acted upon later, not first. I dont know him so I can't say why he is showing interest in you, hopefully because he is interested in getting to know you as a friend and later as a girl friend.
Good luck.
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