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Arguing Parents
I'm a 13 year old girl. A few minutes ago I was up in my room when I heard yelling downstairs. I couldn't make out much but I heard my mom yell "It never happened." And then my dad: "yes it did!" And my mom: "No it didn't!" And my dad: "What did he say?!" Then I heard a door slam so I peeked down the stairs. My dad was sitting on the couch so I assume that the door slam was my mother storming to her room. My parents don't argue often so I'm a little concerned. Do you think that it's just a normal little fight? Can you infer what it was about by what they were yelling? From their dialogue my mind of course went straight to "mom is cheating on dad". But that's pretty unlikely. What do you think it was about? I'm really worried.
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Parents are allowed to argue it’s normal. Remember parents were once strangers who fell in love and it is normal to sometimes have disagreements. Some parents yell and scream when they argue; others don't talk to each other when they have a disagreement. It doesn't mean they are going to get divorced.
You heard bits and pieces of a conversation which was part of an argument. What you heard was totally out of context of the conversation. For all you know dad may have been upset because mom drove the car over a curb and mom yelled back, "It never happened."
Unfortunately it is easy for any child to jump to the conclusion that one or the other parent has been caught cheating when their parents argue. It is an unfortunate fact of life today. Try not to jump to this conclusion for when you do so without any evidence you are going to be wrong
Parents like siblings are going to have the occasional argument. It is nothing for you or any child to worry about or get in the middle of. Your parents do love each other and they will work through whatever caused the argument together. Then things will return to normal.
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It's always unsettling on the kids when parents fight. There is no way though for any of us to venture even a guess as to what they fought about. Even if you did know what, there isn't anything you can do about helping smooth things over. Its for them to work out on their own. If they don't argue often, then likely they have figured out ways to deal with most situations without argueing.
Things like one having a stressful day and not having had time to unwind and relax, one feeling ill or in pain, having a headache can make a person more short tempered and unable to work things out smoothly because when we are not feeling our best, our patience is shorter. I am like that too but I know when I am feeling like that. Even as a mom, kids pestering me for attention and asking all sort of things...I didn't want to snap or yell at them just because I was stressed or had a headache so I always warn people, please, not now. I am not myself and not able to discuss anything right now. If you continue without giving me time, I might end up yellling and fighting with you. Luckily everyone would back down and wait. I am sure your parents are doing the best they can to work things out. If your 13, then they've been married at least 14 years or more and always worked things out before.
The one thing you can do is pray if you believe in a God or greater power and ask for lots of love to envelop them and tempers to go down and love and peace to return to the household.
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