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how to forget a girl who she is a lesbian
Help me forget my past with the lesbian
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There is no magic way to erase a memory. All you can do is redirect your mind to being busy thinking and handling other current projects and or people in your life. When too busy to have idle time to focus on her, it's the next best thing.
The questions you did not ask but may need to be addressed is why you want to forget her?
I can think of two. Choose the one that fits your situation and if I missed it, write and let me know what your situation is.
One: Being that you still love her but she left you and it hurts and you cant stop thinking about her. That happens in any relationship breakup. It's a memory that is not just in your conscious mind when you are awake, but its deep in your subconscious because the sub is where all our emotions and feelings are stored and come from. The subconscious will still have feelings for a person long after you part. It is never erased but current love can take the forefront, be top priority in your life so the love and memory of the past partner goes to the back burner of the stove. Time will heal the feelings and the hurt but not erase the memories.
Two: Being that you are young, entering or just gone through puberty...full of sexual urges but not wanting to get pregnant. Either you came up with it or the other girl friend did, and talked you into having sex with her. It was a good way to care care of both your urges at the time. But at a later time, one or both of you moved on, perhaps have boyfriends. Due to what you hear some people or the church say...you feel guilty about that episode in your past, want to get over it but can't forget. You think you've done something really wrong and thats why you want to erase the memory and forget her.
If this is the case, let me assure you that it is perfectly normal for two heterosexual teen girls to have their first sexual experiences with a girlfriend. It is actually a very good alternative to becoming sexual with a guy and having to worry about becoming pregnant. Engaging in a sexual relationship with another girl does not automatically make you or her Lesbian. There are females as I said who are straight who did it for the purpose I stated...or one or both may be bi-sexual and this means that they can have sexual desire for both males and females. Some go over both in equal amounts...while gals I know personally preferred females but found they had sexual desire for one man who became her b est friend and husband and had kids with and he allowed her the girlfriends on the side to satisfy her bi-sexual tendencies. I had one friend like that who introduced me to other friends of hers like that. I am strand youcan be replaced by a tnoaight but curious to talk to people like this and find out the hows or whys of this type of relationship and how it's working out for them. If it's guilt that causes you to want to forget, you don't have to forget, cus theres no reason for the guilt.
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